I know a great divorce lawyer.
You and your ex are both mongs though, it was never going to last mate.
Don't listen to the soft shites, there's still time to back out and live a few more years.
Menopause happens as ovarian function starts to fail and the ovaries produce less hormones.
Chemo can affect the ovaries which is why menopause may start to kick in with chemo.
With regards to the surgery, a hysterectomy refers to removal of the uterus. Often surgery referred to colloquially as a hysterectomy is actually a hystero-(uterus)-salpingo-(ovarian tubes)-oopher-(ovaries)ectomy. If you remove the ovaries, you bring about instant menopause as you entirely remove their function (unless you give HRT to add back some of the hormones the ovaries would have been producing). If the surgery was for cancer prevention it's quite likely they did take the ovaries too, but obviously I don't know the details.
@Queenslander sorry to hear you've both been going through all that. Hopefully things can start going in the right direction from here.
All the best Queens to you and the missus. My sister in law has been through similar recently with chemo and surgery and they hope it's now the end of it and she can go back to some sort of normal life.
She already has her return date for the gym.
Sorry to hear this shit is still going on Queeny. My PM's remain open if you want to talk, shout or scream about any of this. Just remember to look after yourself. My mum always said it's harder watching someone you love go through this shit than it is to actually go through it.
There must be something in the water. My sister in law is having a hysterectomy and radiotherapy in a few weeks.
Who knew Ignoring cancer for 16 months would cause a sudden influx of cases upon resuming service?
Good luck 🤞
She was actually able to catch it and be treated without any impact but she's in Switzerland so a properly funded healthcare system.
She said yes
Couldn’t wait until Wednesday lolz
How did you do it?
I'm a twit
Where did you do it?
Why did you do it?
What did you do it?
Perfect.
Black Swan and some crispy duck wraps for anniversary memories.
Or the mighty ducks. But that’s a harder sell.
Congratulations, Waffles. Well played.
Ps. Tell me you met her only a month ago for extra points?
Yeah. Congrats also.
Stag do?
I'm a twit
For the love of God.
Just before Butterstone
Got to wait until she's 16.
Video evidence of the proposal or it didn't happen. You young youth record and document everything.
It's on his Snapchat story grandad
If igor isn’t part of something then did it really even happen?
Wait are people not still doing most of their e-socialising via Habbo Hotel? No wonder I've got no mates.
Is the pool open yet?
First off, chaps, I want to just reassure that this isn't the start of some breakdown or return to former behaviours. I don't even know if it's just to get it off my chest somewhere or if one of you surprisingly pops up with some advice.
I won't get into too much detail but I have been sort of seeing someone since April, I say sort of because we've never really been official and most out time together we spent denying what was blatant to everyone else, even ourselves I guess but I think we both valued the friendship too much to risk it. Until of course we did risk it by doing sleeping together the day I was meant to leave, a pity fuck I thought at the time but instead of leaving, I ended up staying and it just continued and then one night during the summer, we finally spoke about it together and admitted how we really felt and had felt for much longer than April.
Initially it had been great, unexpected but pretty natural. Occasional doubts given we both have a bit of a shit history with relationships but nothing untoward with one another, no fall outs, arguments and what not.
The last few weeks it hasn't really been like that and I'd be lying if I said it probably wasn't viewed that way from both our perspectives but neither of us really spoke about it in great detail, not so much touch and go but you could sense things were at a stage where they were going to go one way or the other, we were either going to bite the bullet and become an official item or we wouldn't. As you learn more about one another, I suppose that's natural. We've both been on our own 'journey' so to speak for nearly two years and so this wasn't ever part of the plan, for her nor for me but you can't help the way you feel, I guess.
However, those same journey's we've been on has probably brought things to the current stage. I sensed nearly two weeks ago that something was brewing, not because she told me things I didn't know but because I felt it, from her and in myself. Not so much incompatible but that now isn't the time and our challenge of maintaining friendship whilst looking as though we were going places was having a bit of an affect, not all for the good it must be said.
Two weeks ago was the strongest feeling because I had many occasions when I wanted to be anywhere else than with her, not because things weren't right or whatever, it just felt like she would rather be somewhere else and truth be told, I did too. We'd meet up but almost as soon as we did, there was times I couldn't wait to get away, it wasn't having positive impact as I'd be having a great day, looking forward to seeing her until we'd see one another and it just seemed a little off. It could have been my own self doubts so I tried not thinking too much into it but these same self doubts that I've been experiencing for much of our time together, mostly about myself, I put down to my confidence which is up and down a lot of the time. First lockdown shot me to pieces I can't lie, I wasn't a massively confident individual in my own mind even back then but I could put on a game face if needed but lockdown one really did fuck me initially, then it slowly grew back and then with all the campaigning etc that I was doing and the way I was handling things, I sort of discovered a new level, both confidence and sense of achievement, surprising myself with the things I was doing and realising that perhaps I was realising this 'potential' that I'd long been told I had.
I put the campaigning to bed once I returned to work because the bills don't pay themselves but in April I wasn't the best, I had extra pounds, my fitness was lacking but I slogged it out, this summer being a huge challenge but again one that I overcome. The only downside to most of it in regards to this lass was that I was reading all the signs right prior to anything happening but a combination of my own doubts, lack of belief, lack of confidence meant I was only realising that I was right long after the fact, the one night conversation we had for example, it confirmed how much of an idiot I had been for not telling myself off and instead beating myself up a little, thinking maybe it was a looks thing, an age thing, perhaps I was boring etc. You know the drill, I hope.
Anyways, she went away for a week, the week has been a nice breathe of fresh air tbh, I missed her a lot of course but I knew when she came back we were due another chat and it was only going to go one way or the other, in my mind I felt it was going to go the let's just remain friends route but given how often I'd read the signs right but thought the opposite, it wouldn't have surprised me in the slightest if she came back and said yes, let's get together properly which despite all the above, would have been absolutely awesome because I feel I have been in love with this lass way before we even started working together again as there was a good six month break inbetween, besides, the first time we met she was with someone, they split, she left, I ended up going home before or after that, I can't recall entirely but it was by chance that we'd be working together for same employer but different location this time.
Just to nip this in the bud, it was as expected. She wants to remain friends. I'm not too surprised by that as I pretty much expected that to be the case and I totally 100% hold no grudge about it either as I understand her reasons, I can't even challenge them because I know she is right, not just from her own perspective but personally, I think it is probably the right thing too.
But here's the thing. I'm crushed. Legit hurt even though I feel I do know that it is for the best because our friendship has probably suffered a little as a result and that friendship was the main reason I didn't pursue things earlier. How would you handle this if in a similar position? I just don't know what to do. It's not a case of give her time and space as if she wanted or needed that, of course I'd make sure that that was the case but more how do you go back to what was before what has been? We can't pretend nothing happened, we can't pretend the outcome doesn't suck and I'd say we can't pretend anything because one of the things that has been so great about us both is that other than the denial, we've been completely upfront and open with one another from the moment we met almost. A legitimate friend and as sad as it sounds, that's something I haven't had too much of in a good number of years, someone who truly does care about you, who wants nothing but the best, who'll tell you the things you don't want to hear.
Sorry. I know this is a risk with it being me posting this but I am perplexed right now.
Smiff, I say this with all the love in my heart; what the fuck are you talking about?