Stick that on reddit Baz you cunt.
Be posting a lot more on here now I'm about to spiral in to a black hole of depression and self destruct.
Stick that on reddit Baz you cunt.
Be posting a lot more on here now I'm about to spiral in to a black hole of depression and self destruct.
What have you given up?
Will we be getting the tanning-cam secret files?
Saviour of the board
Don't worry lad, once we get promoted you'll forget all about it.Originally Posted by Magic
I'm desperately trying to cling on to my dignity, if nothing else.
Chin up mucker.
She'll be having that as well.
Sorry to hear.
fyi the rest: All unnecessary/harsh jokes in Magics direction in this thread will carry warnings.
Hey I don't mind really. My focus is now being as amicable as possible and having grace throughout this whole process. I am terrified. I have never lived on my own and feel like I'm going to implode every time I think about my daughter. Kissing her goodnight and leaving tonight was a pure PTSD moment.
If someone ends up banned can they still see the board on weekends?
lol that's very good.
It was probably for the best.
For you, her and the kid. Although you probably don't think that now.
lol
Even if they don't they'll all have to pay maintenance (towards Baz's beer fund).
@Magic, at least you can come to Rugby for a nice big sesh now. You can even kip in my spare room.
In all seriousness though, without wanting to be too much of a fanny, you've always been one of my favourite people on here and I really do think everything will work out alright. As far as your daughter goes, I'm 10000% sure that it's better for a kid to be brought up by single parents than parents stuck in a hugely dysfunctional and irreparable relationship. I think it's gonna be a lot easier for you to be happy, motivated and generally engaged with life away from what was pretty clearly a fucked marriage, and that can only be a good thing for you and ya kid. luv u xx
The board will have your back during all this. You can have that money for a Batman outfit and a ladder.
Congratulations.
I'm a twit
Obviously we've only heard one side of things, but over the years we've heard Magic work through self-help books, see a doctor about mental health issues, and generally try to find ways to be a better person in his relationship despite his awful stories. Did she ever do anything, or just blame Magic the entire time?
I think she did a kickboxer.
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I caught her trying to set up an affair.
Sorry to hear MJ. Enough of us said before that it might be the best thing in the long run so I really hope it is.
LR ain't wrong.
You deserve better.
You will be okay. This is going to be the hardest time of your life, but you will be okay.
Whatever it is that you need to do for yourself and for your daughter, you can do it.
Hope things pick up for you now
Your daughter will be fine, we always say in work its better for a child to have two happy parents who arent together than two miserable parents who are.
Long overdue, especially after the kickboxer incident, but ultimately the right thing to do. For you and your daughter.
For the kid's sake, I hope she sorts herself out as well. She can't be straying every so often or wind herself up in a string of shit relationships.
I'm wandering around the house in floods of tears looking at all the drawings she's done of us and family pictures as well. Shit. My entire life for 11 years has just literally disappeared in front of my eyes.
I know in reality it isn't as final as that but this is about to be a long, horrible journey no doubt about it. It's also regurgitated all my buried feelings that I experienced from my own parents' horrific divorce.
Fun times.
Well that's a bit shit, sorry to hear.
Sorry to hear, Magic. I'm sure it's probably the right thing to do though.
Try to think logically (difficult I know), how much do you see your daughter during the week? You will be at work most of the time and her at school(?). Being a 'weekend dad' sounds shit, and obviously you are missing out a bit which is horrible, but try to keep it in perspective. You can still have weekends and it can be 1 on 1 without your cunt of a wife dripping all over your floor.
Correct.
One toxic relationship can spoil a dozen previously good ones, so while this is a chapter of your life ending, and there will be a feeling of loss inherent in that, your other relationships will be better for it.
As I remember you'll actually be binning more than one poisonous cunt with this move, as her entire family sounded just awful.
You'll be a better man, and a better dad, for this. Cry and shout and punch the walls all you need to for now, but assuming even a tenth of what you told us was true this is a wholly positive move.
Sorry to hear, Magic.
Time to up sticks to South Carolina and bang some college sloots.
Sounds to me like you have your head in the right place. Your daughter is what matters, so just make sure that you are happy when you're together. Oh, and don't go talk shit about her mother when you're with her, that never leads to anything positive. The other side might not extend you the same courtesy unfortunately, but still.
Monday: Take her to swimming and put her to bed
Tuesday: Pick her up from mum's and put her to bed
Wednesday: Pick her up from dad's and occassionally put her to bed
Thursday: Take her for dinner after gymnastics and put her to bed
Friday: Usually family friday, dinner together and watch a film
W/E: Again usually more family stuff
We're staying amicable so I'd quite like to do the stuff above, put her to bed and then leave but not sure if that'll float.
I've started changing my bank accounts and looking for a place to stay.
Our mortgage is fixed until Sept next year, I'm willing to pay the mortgage and give them time to get accustomed to me not being there and also to find a place to stay beyond the sale in Sept.
Ah. Fair enough. I can only advise to get these things agreed legally if that's the case. Unless you deem her trustworthy enough not to use your kid as a weapon if there's any drama?
It might be worth toning down things like 'poisonous cunt' and 'the right thing to do' until we know for certain he's past the caving in and going home stage.
That "kid as a weapon" tool is super scary/.
That said, do we have those laws that Tony Soprano donned talking to every good divorce lawyer in the area? Might be worth looking into.
I am 100% past that stage. Like I said I've already changed my wage to my dad's bank account until I get another one out.
Trying to find a flat now.
Well in lad get them scummers out your life.
Isn't your dad, erm, well. Maybe someone else's account?
How did that even come about?
We've all thought for years you'd be better off out of there but obviously didn't know the full story, and it's easier said than done when you're on the outside looking in.
Best of luck with it all. Hopefully @Waffdon can hook you up with some rebound babes.
I'm a twit
It was probably Waff trying it on with her the little shit.
Give us the affair details - how exactly did you catch her? Does she deny it? Who's the guy?
This.
Great news in all honesty. Move on, enjoy being single and find someone who isn't so corrosive.
Did the Newsagent not have this weeks Heat SvN?
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She had been really (really) standoffish for around 4 weeks and nasty as hell. Her phone was always in her hand and face down.
She left it on the sofa last night so I trusted my gut and had a look. Found pretty appalling messages such as 'desperate to have a wee affair!' and 'I'll come to your house etc' and requests for videos. It was like an arrow through the heart, in all honesty, because I thought we were on ok terms and we had a great day today.
Confronted her and she went all pale. Not sure if she wanted me to find it or not or how far it would have went or indeed how far it has gone already. That is a moot point because it doesn't affect the outcome. Apparently he was one of her work mate's mates from Glasgow but no idea if I believe that either.
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