Its telling that your circle of friends are into this. Or you just browse the right parts of the internet.
Its telling that your circle of friends are into this. Or you just browse the right parts of the internet.
Or: A lot more people are into than care to admit it, and telling people that I've explored it in a way that doesn't make it out to be a big deal tends to incline them to ask, possibly grow curious and maybe think of exploring it themselves.
Not on here, because there's a bit of a mob mentality. But mentioning it to someone when chatting to them has always simply made people curious more than anything else. Not necessarily about going; just curious about what it is. You're probably right though; anyone who's going to kick off at the very thought of my exploring something like that is not someone I'd be likely to associate myself with.
It's a lot less weird than walking from Sheffield to Leeds or whatever the fuck it was.
People would also be curious if you told them you talk to your fridge. It doesn't mean that they want to come round and meet it.
The point I'm making is that I think a lot more people are curious about this stuff than would like to admit it. Mentioning it gives them the opportunity to ask about it while retaining deniable plausibility. Out of my friends, this lass is the third person I've brought with me and there's a couple of others who have admitted want to explore it but haven't had the bottle so far to actually do anything about it.
What do you wear when you go to these places? Is it just casual or straight into the gimp suits and spandex?
Where do you go from the likes of that? Secret room with some 7 year olds?
I wear smart trousers and a dark button up shirt, which is the usual for a lot of blokes. When it comes to play-oriented clothes though, people can wear (or not wear) whatever they want. Women tend to have more choice in what to wear.
My mate just wore a dress. People were chatting to her actually about how much less hassle women get from wanker blokes at these clubs - at normal ones they could wear normal clothes and still get groped and shit on the dancefloor, whereas at these places they can wear next to nothing, or a pvc suit, or a corset, or generally anything they want and still get treated with respect not get any unsolicited physical contact - which is why they feel comfortable wearing those things in the first place. That said, some women just wear a dress or something. It boils down to what you feel comfortable with really.
To death, eventually. Like everything else. Daft question.
What happens when you get bored of anything else? Some people explore it briefly purely for the thrill of it and then disappear once they've had their fill. I guess they find something else to entertain themselves. Many people on the scene though have had kinky fantasies for as long as they can remember though; whether it is being submissive, dominant, tied up, overpowered, dressing up in certain ways...whatever. It's as various as there are people. The point is, it's not just a daft thrill for a lot of people but a genuine variation of their sexuality. I can only assume the paedophilia comment is in reference to reckoning it's all just a mindless hedonistic exercise; anything for a kick. It's not like that for a lot of people.
Edit: As for me, I'm certainly much less bothered about it than I have been. The exploring side of it anyway. I've gotten to know a lot of people on the scene though so if I go it's usually for social reasons nowadays. In a relationship I’d probably need someone who's up for it and probably an adventurous attitude towards sex in general, but it wouldn't be a massive part of any relationship because it isn't a massive part of my life any more. I'm definitely happy I explored it though because I understand the part of me better than I could hope to dream to otherwise.
Feel free to PM me if anyone has any questions about it they'd rather ask privately. A couple of people already have done in the past, and I'm not the sort to out people on the public forum for the sake of cheap lols so there's no need to worry about that.
I bet Spikey sent you a PM.
I reckon he's gagging to be one of those human pups.
Hammy ham.
P.s I don't mind being outed. The thrill.
I bet you are.
It became a lot more prominent for me when I struggled with depression and anxiety. It became the ultimate escape, in my mind, and it's a simplification of normal sex in many ways: no more blurry boundaries; no more wondering what to do. You do as you're told/whatever you want. In any case, you know your role and have nothing else to worry about, which was especially enticing when I was struggling in my real life. I haven't really properly struggled with depression or anxiety for years and certainly not since I started exploring, but that is definitely something ive noticed.
I'm going to sort my 'relationship' with my father out. I can barely look him in the eye and think he's a cunt. I'm going to make the Hero's Choice.
If you think he's a cunt, pretending you think he isn't a cunt won't change the fact.
Sorry? You are misunderstanding. I am acting on assumptions and visible actions. I have no idea what intention is behind those actions. I am seeing what I want to see. I'm going to change this. I want to see reality. I can't keep blaming him for everything that's shit about me.
I get along great with my parents. Two of the nicest people in football.
I've bottled it. I'd rather just watch him eventually die and take our relationship to the grave.
Let's have the full story then.
Had a buddy dating two girls at the same time, one of them finds out about the other, is now pressing charges for assault with her friends as 'witnesses' to various invented crimes.
Fucking feminism man, always trying to keep the alpha down. I think having a long-term girlfriend has been an incredible move for my well-being / professional success.
What professional success have you had?
She's probably fucking your friend.
She's put me on a month's trial.
Stoopid book.
Magic is dead within 12 months if she goes.
Mert is the beige face of white privilege.
Also, RIP Magic.
So, I did the hardest thing I've ever done. I took responsibility for my actions, destroyed my ego and looked at everything from different perspectives. I explained it was due to my upbringing but I can no longer blame my shit parents for my own shitness.
Ever since then she says she's been a lot happier and we haven't had an argument for two days. That's a record (lol!).