This is something you're going to have to get used to though, Magic. Unless she settles down immediately with one geezer, there could be a few blokes who she ends up bringing back.
This is something you're going to have to get used to though, Magic. Unless she settles down immediately with one geezer, there could be a few blokes who she ends up bringing back.
I think he means the fact that your wife will have men around your daughter.
Which surely is the bigger issue, rather than their presence around the bricks you own?
I'm totally fine with her doing what she wants (that includes moving on, of course), just not in what is still my house.
The house will sell immediately but we can't move out until 2nd Sept when mortgage finishes.
Bring your new ting back to your house.
She's definitely sucked fresh cock in your abode.
Your reaction is completely unreasonable on both counts, lol
I'm confused that the 'IT'S MY HOUSE' angle is at the forefront of your reaction. It doesn't seem a major deal to me. She lives there, so she does shit there.
I would be focusing on, and be majorly pissed off about, her having introduced my kid to some bloke she's just started seeing. What if it doesn't work out, is she going to be introducing every cunt she meets to her? A kid doesn't need that instability in their life and it's not exactly a great example to be setting.
Of course, but if nobody is in the house there's nobody to meet. Sorry if that wasn't clear.
This is absurd, how could she avoid doing that? And why would you get so angry? 5 months, 9 months, a year, eventually it’s gonna happen.
I still don’t understand why you moved out of your own house and let her stay though. That seems pretty dumb, and it’s only gonna make your reactions to everything else a lot worse, knowing she’s in your house fucking other guys.
I wouldn't expect a childless young adult to understand any decisions I make.
I think not introducing your infant child to blokes that you can't (hopefully) have been seeing for that long/don't know how serious it is, is considered pretty normal behavior. Magics not expressing it properly but it's totally reasonable.
Also you were all right, and have been for many years. I'm sorry and angry I didn't listen.
Did you find out if it was the boxer lad she was seeing before?
It really isn’t. It’s pretty standard behaviour.
How though? He walks in the front door, girl sees him, presumably he says hi my name is ____ or something.
She could see somebody whilst the daughter is with Magic/parents at the other bloke's place and then if it got serious they could think about introducing.
It might not seem like a big deal to you, but this could be something that sticks with the kid forever and thus all precautions should be taken.
This is literally the stuff of nightmares. And I honestly do believe that women are very susceptible to change, regardless of how "wisely" you choose a partner. I've seen many "good girls" suddenly develop an interest in "exploring themselves" later in life, and "party girls" later settle down and behave in an extremely moral and loyal way and look after their children very well.
Sure there are probabilities which probably correlate with certain background characteristics, but it can be extremely unpredictable at times.
Agreed. Magic is very justifiably angry with the situation. It's just depraved in its selfishness and inconsideration for her child and the wishes of the father of that child.
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I'll admit i have no idea how this shit works, it just seemed odd to me that Magic would get so viscerally angry about this new man stepping foot in his house and making eye contact with his daughter
I mean, it just isn't fucking odd. Have you ever loved someone? It's pretty shitty when that person moves on after you've split up. Now factor in having a child with that person, and said child is getting to know their new partner. Are they the sort of person you want around them? You have no idea. Are they going to try to replace you? Are they going to play games to try to keep you away?
Jesus Mok. This is empathy 101 right here. If you can't understand how a father and husband might struggle with a new man coming into play after a break up, then I really don't know what to tell you.
So it's more that it's misplaced frustration?
No, it's fear, frustration, apprehension, worry, regret and probably a whole tonne of other emotions. His wife and child have a new man in their life. Magic doesn't know the extent of it or even the blokes first name. How are you struggling with this?
For fuck sake, MugBull. This is genuinely embarrassing stuff. It takes a special effort to be the biggest wanker in a conversation that involves Mert talking about female loyalty, but you've shat a hole straight through the bed here.
I was shagging my Missus for 4/5 months before being introduced to her kids and never came close to bumping into them.
Step Da’ Shane
I can't vent to family either as they'll judge and I don't want her to feel unwelcome for Amber's sake. I know this is a bit holier than thou but I'm aware of every single unpleasant feeling that comes with a breakup from a child perspective. I will never have that for my child.
And another issue is that his wife will be at the stage where all she wants is for Magic to not exist and to get on with life with what she sees as her new family, so any right thinking will go out the window. She'll come round and realise a child's father is important, even if she stays with this lad, but it'll be a long road unfortunately. It's all just stages in the whole process even though that doesn't help mj much now.
I fear you're expecting reasonable actions on her behalf, Magic and she seems to be a generally unreasonable person. If she's as much of a twat as you have made out over the years, then her introducing your daughter to every guy she screws sounds about par for the course. Which may be something you have to come to terms with at some point as I don't think you have any way of changing the situation.
Scuba diving didn't go that well lads. I was expecting something ive never tasted before, but it was just like everything else ive ever had. It's all the same.