I have a dilemma

[Boydy]

Some of you may recall my idiot 18 year old cousin that I've moaned about on here before. He got engaged at the New Year which I also moaned/lolled at. I just saw his 'fiancée' on Tinder. Maybe it's just a joke account for taking the piss out of people and that. Maybe these young whippersnappers use Tinder for more than just trying to shag people. Maybe he knows about it and is okay with it (because it's a joke account? Because it's an open relationship? Because they're looking for someone to join them? Ugh, I don't know).

If it's not just a for shits and giggles, she's gonna break the poor little bugger's heart.

What should I do? Tell him? Stay out of it?

If I stay out of it, he probably invests more and more of his life in her and then it possibly goes to shit further down the line when he's in even deeper. If I tell him, I'm the bearer of bad news and he'll be crushed but at least he won't have got in too deep and it'll be better for him in the long run. He's already not going to uni this year because he's waiting on her to finish her course at the local college. Although whether or not he'd actually get the grades is another matter.

UGH.

[Yevrah]

Your Dad did say he was cunt struck, no?

[Lewis]

Tell him.

[-james-]

If you've seen her on it, then does that mean she's seen you as well?

[Pepe]

Instigate her to see how far she's willing to go.

This thread will, of course, serve as evidence of your innocence.

[Sir Andy Mahowry]

Did you swipe right?

[Magic]

I agree with instigating. Not as yourself though. Meet her and candid camera her and post it on here. Then rape her.

[Gray Fox]

Tell him. He's better knowing before shelling out thousands on a wedding and finding out afterwards. Unless he knows and they're into that stuff.

[igor_balis]

I agree with instigating. Not as yourself though. Meet her and candid camera her and post it on here. Then rape her.

Fuck sake . Didn't see that last bit coming, though I probably should have.

[Magic]

I never considered him to be a cuckold.

Get him on here.

[Lewis]

My friend knows a couple who have been spotted on a wife-swapping site. Obviously if somebody told you that you would wonder how they found them, but you would soon gloss over that to lol at them. Not these idiots though (returning to the theory about the other people your friends know being crap). People are merely talking about it behind their backs.

[Boydy]

If you've seen her on it, then does that mean she's seen you as well?

Not necessarily.

Did you swipe right?

Nah. Screenshotted all of her profile in case I do decide to show him though.

[Giggles]

If he's engaged at 18 then he needs lessons like this.

[Boydy]

If he's engaged at 18 then he needs lessons like this.

Probably true.

But also:

Your Dad did say he was cunt struck, no?

Yes. And he's very much correct.

[SvN]

My friend knows a couple who have been spotted on a wife-swapping site. Obviously if somebody told you that you would wonder how they found them, but you would soon gloss over that to lol at them. Not these idiots though (returning to the theory about the other people your friends know being crap). People are merely talking about it behind their backs.

A friend of mine told me his mate (who I sort of know) and fiance were around his and his wife's house and they started talking about "Who would have sex with who" and it all got a bit weird. They tried to move the conversation on a few times but they both kept coming back to it.

He reckons they're full on swingers.

[Pepe]

If you tell him now she will easily excuse herself as not really doing anything wrong and he'll buy it because he is an idiot. You need to instigate and then hit him with the irrefutable evidence on she being up to no good.

[hfswjyr]

Maybe she simply haven't removed her Tinder profile since she set it up years ago? Does it have to be active to be in the search pool?

[Pepe]

Maybe she simply haven't removed her Tinder profile since she set it up years ago? Does it have to be active to be in the search pool?

See, that is the kind of easy out she'll have if you just go for it at this stage.

[Boydy]

If you tell him now she will easily excuse herself as not really doing anything wrong and he'll buy it because he is an idiot. You need to instigate and then hit him with the irrefutable evidence on she being up to no good.

First part is probably true.

Maybe she simply haven't removed her Tinder profile since she set it up years ago? Does it have to be active to be in the search pool?

Nah, it's not an old one. I looked at her facebook. These pictures are recent.

[Yevrah]

Someone else could have set it up as well.

[Lewis]

Yeah, so use that as the concerned in.

'I think somebody has a made a Tinder profile for your wee lady friend, so they have'.

And then you just look concerned rather than lololol 'cunt struck'.

[Boydy]

I don't do that 'so <repeat what was just said>' thing at the end of sentences.

Although I'm spending too much time around people that do do it now, I'm worried it might be creeping back in.

[Lee]

Regional accents/verbal tics are great. I wish I'd not trained myself out of speaking Lestoh Citeh when I was younger and gave too much of a shit what people might think of me.

Anyway. Tell him. If he doesn't listen he doesn't listen but at least you've done your bit and kept your own conscience clear.

[Chrissy]

Tell him. He may be a cunt but he is also family. Sounds like she is being a dirty.

[Spoonsky]

It doesn't necessarily mean she's going behind his back, I think plenty of people just use Tinder for their own amusement without any intent behind it. It wouldn't surprise me if you told him and he replied that they both have it for the bantz. I guess it depends on how much effort she looked to have put it. But either way you should tell him.

[Bartholomert]

Screenshot (if not too late) and send it to him.

[Spoonsky]

Screenshot (if not too late) and send it to him.

I'll do the same when I swipe to your sister in Montreal.

[Sir Andy Mahowry]

I'll do the same when I swipe to your sister in Montreal.

[Byron]

Fuck

But yeah, tell him. If I found out the same and that my brother had known but not told me I'd go nuts.

[John Arne]

How long do profiles remain active when not being used? Could she have signed up and just not used it for 12 months?

[Baz]

Ask @mo what he did in a similar sitch.

[randomlegend]

Nah. Screenshotted all of her profile in case I do decide to show him though.

Screenshot (if not too late) and send it to him.

Nah, it's not an old one. I looked at her facebook. These pictures are recent.

How long do profiles remain active when not being used? Could she have signed up and just not used it for 12 months?

Read the thread, boys.

[phonics]

Tinder profiles remain active until you don't log-in for 3 months. At which point it sends you a message saying you're being hidden.

Send the pic.

[Kikó]

Post the pic here then send the pic.

[Mazuuurk]

A friend of mine told me his mate (who I sort of know) and fiance were around his and his wife's house and they started talking about "Who would have sex with who" and it all got a bit weird. They tried to move the conversation on a few times but they both kept coming back to it.

He reckons they're full on swingers.

If there's the 4 of you there at dinner - how many times can you go back to it? And how to you even try to veil that?

"Yo Greg, would you rather shag me or my lass, mate?"

[Disco]

Just send him the screenshot anonymously, he can deal with it however he wants then.

[Lewis]

Make it anonymous by adding 'I found this, so I did', since you definitely don't speak like that.

[phonics]

Just send him the screenshot anonymously, he can deal with it however he wants then.

How do you send a photo anonomously these days? Print it out and pop it in the mailbox? In fact, do that.

[SvN]

A random email account would do the trick

[Boydy]

That sounds even more cruel than just telling him. I also don't know his email address.

I realised this morning that he's sitting his A levels soon so maybe it's best to just not say anything.

[Disco]

Slip a copy in with his results.

[phonics]

Engaged before he's taken his A-Levels? What an absolute melt.

[Boydy]

Slip a copy in with his results.

[bruhnaldo]

If it's a first cousin I'd feel obliged to mention. But don't bring it up in a gotcha fashion.

"Wanna see something funny?"
"Sure?"
"Think someone set up a profile with your missus pics to catfish people on tinder lololololol"
*Show screenshot*
"Whaaaaaaaaaat?"

Then let the chips fall where they may. That way, poor you, you didn't even THINK that it could POSSIBLY have gone pear-shaped. You just assumed their 18-year-old love was true! Now you're the one upset because you thought wow, finally, true love is back in season. If (cousin) can't even find love at his tender age, how will you ever?!

Or ya know, fit it to your own life. But you get the drift.

[bruhnaldo]

Ooooh or even better, do it when they're both together.

You: "Lol guys... I think someone is trying to catfish people using your profile. Lolz lolz lolz, bantz bantz bantz!"
Girl: "*poker face*"
Guy: "*bad poker face*"
You: "Uhh.... maybe ... not... then?"

Though that might backfire into a "WHAT ARE YOU SAYING YOU DONT TRUST ME?!!?!?!" episode from the emotional woman and just make their fake love stronger.

BUT at least you'd know you'd have done your part and got to sit back as a spectator and *popcorn.gif* it up at least.

[Magic]

Slip a copy in with his results.

This is incredible. Absolute fail at the exams (obv) and finding out his fiance is getting rammed by black men on Tinder. That's suicide inducing.

[Boydy]

As if there are any ehtnic minorities in Ballymena.

[Dela]

Boydy - do you know the woman involved? If so you should confront her about it first. That way if she admits it's her account, she can do the job of actually breaking his heart.

[John Arne]

In all seriousness, of course you have to tell him.

A quick text along the lines of "hey - just thought I'd let you know that I just saw x has a profile on Tinder".

Simples.

[Pepe]

Am I the only one who finds a bit lol that Boydy is on Tinder?