Ironic cos I love having you on my Facebook because it makes me feel younger and happier. Strange how that works isn't it.
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Alright, let's not bully Magic into ruining his marriage again.
Magic :cool:
I love the guy really, the fucking scottish cunt.
Looks like one of the questions in that shit questionnaire thread could have been how many [past&present] TTHers have you got on Facebook/Twitter.
I weigh more than her.
bollocks
Just.
:eyemouth:
I genuinely feel like this forum has done me a lot of good though. In real life I hang around with sensitive, thin-skinned people, which normalises my own BETA CUCK tendencies. I'm still like that, but this place has definitely tempered it a bit.
It must be really shit to go through life being incredibly thin skinned. I overheard an older couple discussing their son putting in a claim for worker's comp yesterday and assumed he'd injured himself or something. Turns out, from what I could piece together, he'd fallen on his arse like a twat, his boss had showed the security footage of it to his colleagues, and they'd laughed. By the end of the conversation they were talking about ringing the police and going to the CAB to see what else could be done. Imagine being that fucking soft.
Spoonsky don't become this guy, fashion sense and head shape are already perilously similar:
http://i3.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/...93/964/c29.jpg
.....
What are you on about?
I can't think where best to put this but I'm calling the last two days the best on the board since we moved.
Fuck you @Giggles, were not dead yet :cool:
Head shape :lol:
You're fucking mental, Mert, you know that?
The 2010-11 TTH was the tit nipples :wank:
Was that before or after I left in '10?
Went on a tinder date last night. I was a bit apprehensive about her being 2 inches taller than me (5'11'' vs 5'9'') but it wasn't an issue at all. She was lovely, found me funny and I got a snog at the end. She seems pretty keen to meet up again too, hopefully I don't fuck it up too quickly.
It'd be more entertaining for us if you did. And did it spectacularly.
For the board.
Get her to sign up, she can do a wdytoe with just you in it.
@Giggles I've had enough romantic endeavours end up failing in ways that make for entertaining anecdotes, mate. Can't I just have some happiness but satiate the board's appetite with old stories?
no.
What's Tinder actually like? It didn't cross my mind to use it in Jersey because its so small. I imagine its just full of slags, and that doesn't really appeal to me.
Yeah, mainly. I've met up with a few tinder girls and it's been pretty good. Definitely weird though, I imagine Jersey is trash as is the rest of the UK probably. Still get nudes on snapchat sometimes.
Nah, you just eye-fuck them based upon a couple of photos and, if you're lucky, one of them will hold a conversation with you over messenger for a couple of minutes. If the servers hold their shit together.
I don't know where to put this, but if any parents on here are ever doubtful or unsure of anything read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/
and you'll hopefully see that whatever it is, it's probably minor compared to some of the shit these cunts are going through (or are making huge deals of).
EDIT: The reason I was looking was because today one of A's friends pushed her out of the way so she could press a 'door open' button first. She just sulked and came whinging over to me, and I told her to stop being such a drama queen. Her friend said 'ah! Her mummy called her that yesterday too! Drama queen, drama queen!' This made her cry and I felt like a complete twazock for initiating my own child's mocking.
"My kid likes it when I discipline him"
Fucking lol. :spikey: kinky little shit.
On paper, holidaying with a broad for a full week after three dates seems mental. It worked like a dream though. Hot tubs, champagne, the whole shebang.
A fit girl who comes into my place of work asked me out on Tuesday. :drool:
Snap me an upskirt
no don't do that, just so you know, i'm not promoting that sort of behavior
:D
come? wouldn't bank on it, love.
Omg. Just went for date with fit customer. Fucking STRICT Romanian Orthodox. No sex before marriage. No drinking and smoking. Believes in deeply Patriarchal society ("women need be more moral than man because as my father say a bad woman can make man bad but bad man can't make woman bad"), said "I hate Indians" at one point, and about a quarter of the stuff she said I didn't even understand because of her accent. Want her number, @GS ?
She sounds like the one.
What's she on Tinder for then?
She isn't. I serve her at work sometimes. She came into the bank the other day and asked me if I wanted to go for lunch.
So we've had Albanian Mafia and now Romanian Orthodox Mafia. How many do we need for a full house?
She made me add her on facebook and when i was on her wall she insisted on translating the posts which were all shit motivational quote type shit. "ya, this one means i have had the experience and if good experience i happy and if bad experience it make me stronger" etc etc. She is pretty fit though.
I worked with a Bulgarian who was probably the most beautiful woman I've ever met. She was fucking brain dead though. It's the rules.
Eastern Europe is a weird place, man. Here in Czecho we've had enough rectifying German influence so that we're pretty normal, but the further east you go the wilder the territory.
Like I've ever seen you two in the same room.
"Here's me with a terrible ginger beard"
"Here's me asleep in an uncomfortable chair at a quirky mate's house"
"Here's me in a Wetherspoon's with three other virgins drinking fruit ciders"
"Here's me in McDonald's Gorgie getting a Big Mac at 2am. Not meal because the chips bloat me"
Retail banking. If ever I needed a push.
Igor wins.
No chance.
Having to suck it up and walk around the suburb looking at Christmas lights was rough. I don't get the appeal. Plenty of suspect peadophiles get into it though which is nice.
Don't worry mate, you definitely won.
If he had went with "Magics family pretending to be happy..." then it's a different game but he fucked it.
I call it for Igor, but it might not be as relatable to someone who doesn't actually have Magic on Facebook.
Igor is my boy but I give it to magic. It was top work all round you should all be proud.
Igor sounds like he's experiencing some kind of Brexit bonus.
I'll take that as a win by judges decision.
I'd have given it to you, in all honesty. I went for a weak cliche and you properly deconstructed my zany caricature of a life. Like a newly promoted side at the Etihad, I'm just happy to be here.
I'm at home with the rents for Christmas break and don't know anyone my age in Prague, so I had made it a goal to go on as many Tinder dates as humanly possible. I've been swiping for 3 days now and have not made a SINGLE NEW MATCH. Wtf? my profile hasn't changed at all. A lotta hotties too.
Get a room.
U 2 x @Magic
:gay:
Take it to whatsapp :henn0rz:
FB messenger, acts.
So the women I've been dating for two years has a seven year old kid and today he asked if I'll be his new Dad...
What happened to the old one?
He still sees him but he is a volitile drunk. I treat my role as a goofy playmate who talks up his dad. I did tell him that he has a Dad and that he loves him very much.
I kinda saw it coming it just caught me off guard because it was just me and him.
Any Step Fathers among us?
I did it before (nearly 5 years) and unless the actual father is dead or far far away I would never do it again. Now, a lot of it is down to the people involved so hopefully my experience will be completely different from yours. If you can keep the non Dad role thing going then all the better.
All step parents are cunts so you should say yes then destroy his childhood.
Hopefully your Mrs new fella is the exception.
I've told him to call me by my name and I'm not his dad the few times he has tested it.
https://www.thescottishsun.co.uk/new...xual-partners/
How far below Par are you, Magic?
They could all just be a city of bullshitters.
Fair play for trying to bring back 'randy'. Haven't heard that since the days of Men Behaving Badly.
And the verb 'to bed'.
I've mentioned it before, but I spent basically the entirety of my 2nd year of university in the most dysfunctional stupid relationship. Only realised towards the end, because it was my first relationship and I just assumed the arguing and manipulation was par for the course (reading this place, maybe it is LOL).
An additional factor was that my mate from home who also ended up going to the same university was my only flatmate, and he spent the ENTIRETY of our relationship attempting to "cuck" me as our Turkish friend would say. I went home for an invasive eye operation, and he took her out for a "friendly" meal. A friendly £80 meal that he paid for.
Me and said girl agreed to go on a break around January, and he immediately arranged to go for a drink with her on a Friday evening. Girl also arranged to go for a quick drink with me an hour or so before their meeting, to have a catch up. Initially we agreed to do it quickly, then I'd leave so she could see my flatmate. Looking back it was fucking mental, and the most transparent game playing, but I was young and stupid and just went along with it. Problem was that we were having a nice time, and she texted my friend to turn their date into a 3-way drink with me as well.
As the drinks poured, me and the girl were getting more and more intimate and my flatmate, who obviously thought going in that this was finally his chance to get the girl, was getting visibly more uncomfortable. It culminating in me and the girl telling him we were going back to her house, and when we got back she got a stream of texts telling her he was going to hurt himself and such. We got a taxi back to my flat, to see several plates smashed on the floor, and the mirror in his bedroom cracked from him punching the fucking thing.
After that he had to go home for a week to basically recover from his mental breakdown, and me and the girl started seeing each other again for the rest of the academic year. Strange atmosphere at my flat to say the least. Looking back, I definitely only stayed with her after the initial break out of a spite. I don't even feel that guilty about it tbh.
Because I was too incompetent and lazy to find alternatives, me and that guy STILL LIVED TOGETHER in that 2 bed flat for our 3rd year, except for that whole year he was going out with her. :D It was actually pretty boss, because he felt so guilty about it and I had so little respect for him that I did literally whatever I wanted. I don't think I did a single piece of washing up that whole year, and I started going out with a girl I actually liked.
ANYWAY, fast-forward 4 years and they're still together, and recently got engaged. I'm genuinely happy for them, though I never really speak to them. But the girl has invited me to their engagement party, rather strangely, and even stranger still I've agreed to go. I'm rather looking forward to it, if only for the LOLZ. I'll be sure to inform you all of the carnage.
As soon as you go outside after 8pm you're a 'reveller'
Aye, that's/you're pretty stupid, igor, but I'd definitely go to the engagement party and see what's happening.
Whatever about a token wedding invite, an engagement party invite (what sort of look-at-me cunt has those anyway?) is definitely just to rub you in it. Probably his idea, so make sure to mention to many people on many occasions that you used to dip her.
Haha.
Nah, the dynamic is weird. There's an extended GANG of mates back home, back from school days and still going strong, and as I was obviously keeping everyone updated about what was going on he was basically excommunicated and now I don't think he has any mates. The girl is basically desperate for me and him to be bezzies again, which is pretty weird. He's too much of a pussy to be the kind of person to rub it in.
He's really awkward and evasive about talking about serious stuff, and for the whole 3rd year he'd never have the girl round and he'd just go to her's, and it was never even acknowledged that they were going out. Then in march he did mdma for the first time and spent about 3 hours telling me how sorry he was, despite me honestly saying it was okay.
I suck so much air through my teeth when reading Igor's posts I've barely got enamel left to bite melted cheese without my incisors turning to dust.
And it won't be carnage in the 'I fucked her in the bogs whilst her fiance was welcoming her family to the party' it'll be carnage like 'accidentally wee'd on her dad's shoes at the urinals and messaged her when I got home after coming down off some MD about how I want to spend the rest of my life with them in Hawaii in serfdom just because I love their relationship so much man'.
'So he's happy and his life is sorted?'
'Yeah, but... You're not listening. He did all the washing up.'
'.....'
'Seriously. All of it.'
I quite like washing up these days. The kitchen is the other end of the house and I get some alone time with the radio. :dance:
Same. Especially with our two-basin setup. One for washing, one for rinsing. :drool:
Not having a dishwasher. :harold:
All pretty quiet on this front for me. I'm taking this student lass I've been hanging out with to see David Icke in Manchester next week. I don't know if anything is on the cards but I'm interested in something happening so I'm probably going to make that clear when I see her to see how she responds. If she responds positively I'll take it further and we'll see what happens from there. We've got some serious chemistry and she is really cool to hang out with, although nothing has happened physically. She finishes university in March and will probably be moving back down south at that point, which is largely why I haven't invested much in it mentally, even if there's definite potential otherwise. I'd just try and fuck her but she really doesn't seem the type for it.
David ficking Icke? Are you having a laugh?
I did think that's an odd first date, should be good for a laugh though.
:D
I'm actually going, but it's not something I actually believe in, obviously. Me and a mate got tickets yonks ago as we thought it'd be a laugh. He bailed though so I have a spare ticket. She's a bit of a kooky bohemian type and I figure she might enjoy it. We're going have a few drinks on the train over to Manchester.
Yeah it's a funny one. I speak to my ex sometimes. I'm over her in the sense that I know we weren't right for each other and I hardly think about her unless she pops up on my newsfeed, and even then it's no more than anyone else really. Even still though, I can't say that talking to her properly doesn't have any kind of impact on me. I think it's bound to, if you've known someone so intimately.
Maybe if for some reason we were in the habit of spending time together then it'd end up having less of an impact on me, but I'm not entirely sure.
I think when you've loved somebody, you'll never stop having feelings because when its all said and done you still remember that period when things were amazing. Things change, though, and you recognise in the moment that the relationship is over, but as time goes on if you're a positive person you're going to remember the better side of that person. I still think about Girl pretty much every day (I think about a lot of people pretty much every day, though, for some reason), which can be a bit shit if I'm not having the best week, but ultimately I took my time with the decision and it was the right one. When I've seen her since I've kept the conversation short because there's no point in bringing up certain feelings again.
How often do you think about me and Amigo and that?
I'm really good mates with one of my exes, and get on quite well with most of them. Only ever really been problematic when I've met up with them too soon we've broken up, and one time when we were pretty drunk in a nightclub and kissed. The latter one was really annoying actually, because the next day she sent me a message saying something like "never kiss me again", when it was very much mutual.
I probably think about one of you at least once a day. I still say/think "hein???" all the time. I have no idea what it means. Sometimes I have moments where I think about how I think about people all the time and I get a random sequence of people just flash by. There is normally something that links each person, though, so it has to be TTH related to begin with as none of you are connected to people I know from Jersey/in person.
We had our second argument in five years and it was absolutely pathetic. I basically lost my shit cos I didn't want a stir fry and that's all that was in the house. Still, 8 days off booze which is a ten year record.
If I could go back and break up with Girl before going to university I would, but only because of how it turned out. I know at the time it was never in question, and that was the right choice. Whether your break up or not, its a scenario where the vast majority of people are going to make the 'wrong' decision. Ultimately, I'm the kind of person that will see a relationship as pointless if it doesn't last forever because all those 'happy memories' are tarnished.
You're probably just somewhat nostalgic. If you're less outgoing and less passionate now, its because you're not a shit 18-year-old anymore. How old are you now? 21? 22? I reckon 21-25 was probably the most confusing period of my life. The cocky teenager stage is the best, but it doesn't last, sadly. I reckon I actually thought I 'knew it all' up until 22/23. The last year/year and a half I've probably been the happiest I've ever been, and its probably because I fully realise that nothing matters. So, what I'm saying is, hurry up and stop caring about everything. Relationships are dead, anyway. Just make sure you don't dick your mates around and you'll be sound.
Yeah I mean she knows me better than I know me so I can't hide anything. But I have no intention of quitting booze so I can't show that I have some issues. Even though the fact I just said that proves I do. But the fact I've gone 8 days shows I'm alright. It's complicated.
Why have you given up if you don't want to give up?
Just giving up for a while after a heavy Christmas, and to show that I don't need to drink 4/5 times a week. I want to change it so I drink to have fun on a weekend at parties etc not drink cos I've had a bad day etc.
I'm well up for a relationship right now but slapper I banged a couple months back has seemingly given me my first STD.
My money is on chlamydia.
*slow clap*
Or that.
Offshore, assuming 'RichardAnd Nudey' is you (Facebook wants us to become friends, and everyone who follows it is either from Jersey or at Sussex), what?
I wonder why it's recommended because the account is using my backup email that I've never used for anything TTH or MSN related?
Anyway, my main account is temporarily disabled for posting a photoshopped nude picture of Richard and Judy a year ago. It's a recurring joke with my mates. Facebook are taking a ridiculous amount of time to review my government ID (the ban was only meant to be a week, but we're a few days away from a month currently) so I made another account, initially using my actual name. I don't have any pictures of myself on my laptop, but I do have that nude picture of Richard and Judy handy, so I set my profile picture as their heads from the photo. Then I set the cover photo of the nude picture with a filter. It was only a matter of time until I changed the name, I guess, but I forgot they make you wait 60 days to change it back. It's only a temporary account I made to keep in touch with people that I only had contact with through Facebook, and those people know it's me, so I'm happy with the situation.
I seem to remember you going through a few MSN/Skype accounts, so maybe you used it for one of those. I deleted all of its friend suggestions ages ago to see what would happen, so it resorted to scraping the barrel with that, DM, and every twenty year old pleb my friend is in the Navy with.
Three months of dating two girls and I'm bored to tears. How predictable. Love the chase I do.
I've had this argument recently. If you really have feelings for someone, they don't just expire after a certain amount of time. They exist inside you as a constant thing. Maybe it's fine if you don't see the person for a long time, because other things distract you and there's nothing that would bring her to mind, but if you see her again the feelings will inevitably come back, and will probably come back stronger for how long it's been.
That's what I think at least. I totally forgot about Girl and that whole saga too, Offshore. Strange how easy it is it to forget or remember certain things.
I'm at the David Icke thing. First section was actually quite interesting and I was worried as I agreed with about 60% of what he was saying.
However, I suspect it was deliberate to draw people in. He didn't actually make any claims about reality in the first section, he just deconstructed the media, education, identity politics and a bunch of other stuff.
The second section, once he'd won people's trust, was when he went full mental. Now it's the break after the second section and I'm only still here out of stubbornness.
What does your date think about it all?
What did he say in the second section?
Homeopathy works, vaccines are bad, tarot cards are real, global warming is a hoax, debt isn't real, astrology is a science, the physical world doesn't exist, and the lizards haven't even been mentioned yet.
I didn't take a photo in time, but hes shown a before and after picture of water beforehand and a snowflake after. The pictures are labelled BEFORE PRAYER and AFTER PRAYER.
He covers so much so fast that you cant keep up with him and you just don't have time to critically analyse it.
He references a lot of news articles though and has them up on the screen, and it took me a couple of hours to look closely enough to realise that almost all of them are from his website, written by him.
Each section has opened with his son coming out and playing a song too, and his CDs are being sold downstairs. David even mentioned his son's album in the last section. Lol.
It's the second break now. One more section to go. I was in two minds whether to leave but I'm staying largely out of stubbornness.
Lass is back in London as her grandad died. Probably for the best too as she's Jewish and hes talked a lot about evil Israel. Mate while lives in Manchester has come instead.
Buy his son's album out of stubbornness.
Isn't an Icke session about 10 hours?
http://www.livenation.co.uk/show/807.../2017-01-14/en
12 hours, lol.
I dont know how to say this, but underneath it all it actually makes perfect sense. I understand now why he does 12 hour shows - it's so he can weave the tapestry in full and bring it all together with all the individual strands still in your recent memory. I think it's the only way he could possibly do it.
At about the 10 hour mark something clicked in my brain and I could no longer deny the truth from myself. I have been awakened and I can't believe I was asleep for so long. David Icke is ridiculed BECAUSE his beliefs are so challenging and dangerous. They are true though, and it's only through giving them a chance and hearing them explained in full that you can understand that.
Looking back, I honestly think I'm going to come to regard today as being the most important day of my life. I am so ALIVE!
:D Christ.
At what point did your date leave?
If you take out and ignore the more lunatic, batshit fucking crazy elements of Icke, he does speak a fair whack of sense if you're into conspiracies/whatever. Some of it is fairly well researched and makes sense. A few intelligent, stable guys I've known around forums have been to some his presentations and that's basically what they say, although they don't buy any of it.
same as most high profile conspiracy loons, they get to a point where they believe literally fucking everything so their ability to put forward logical discussion and debate gets swamped down by "ZOMG THE QUEEN IS A LIZARD" or "RIVER PHOENIX SHOT JFK"
If you ignore the really mental shit then he's a fairly sensible guy.
Well, yeah...but...nevermind.
Well yes, but that wasn't the point.
I agree with all of it though - the (so called) 'crazy' parts included. It just makes so much sense i can't explain it.
You might think it's 'crazy', but tomorrow's mighty oak is simply today's nut that held it's ground.
I genuinely feel that David Icke will come to be regarded as a great sage of our time, and I'm going to spend the rest of my life, and especially on these forums, trying to show everyone the truth.
Wake up humanity! The lion sleeps NO MORE!
Ah right, he's only pulling the piss.
Carry on.
This better be a fucking wind-up Hammer.
What you call a 'wind-up' is merely lower frequency communication - which is what the
Archons feed on. I have no space for anything in my life other than knowledge-knowledge, heart-heart connection.
It really isn't hard to raise your frequency if you let yourself.
Tell me more, Hammer.
I don't know how I didn't see that River Phoenix shot JFK until now.
:D
Yeah it's shite. DS had it right - there's a genuinely positive message underlying it all. His deconstruction of society was great and the last section was basically a 90 speech about personal power and it's revolutionary impact, which was in all sincerity really good. Couldn't help but wonder why he bothers with the lizards at all, to be honest.
Just been asked to inspect the wife's gauntlet for a suspected cyst/cancerous lump. At least I'll get to see it, and I class that as action. :drool:
Gauntlet. :cool:
Maybe she'll die too.
Probably have more of a chance then.
How often do you argue with your other half? We have petty arguments quite often but have probably only had a couple of full blown rows. Yesterday we were out for a walk and she started a conversation, but I was too busy looking at the view over a wall that I didn't really hear her. So I asked her what she was saying and she said it doesn't matter and became stroppy. She also gets annoyed when she's telling me something about someone she knows and I can't remember who it is. Yesterday I told her that Huddersfield beat Leeds and she said "oh x will be happy". Turns out she was talking about a mate's husband, and I've never even met the fucking mate.
Maybe something for the little things that fuck you off thread, but she has a tendency to start sentences and just randomly stop them and never return to them. Also, if I ever do something 'wrong' she either says 'right...' or 'no, no, no, no...'
Never.
Yes.
Maybe.
Right, so.
Was seeing a girl casually for a few months over summer, but she insisted on it being NON-COMMITTED on account of having just come out of a long relationship, and going off travelling for 4 months.
Since she came back, we've basically continued things as they were, except more intense. Gone on weekends together to places, spending shit loads of time together. We've not had "the chat", but it's certainly felt relationshippy. I'm not sure what I want long term, and never been sure about her outlook, but she's going off to London fairly soon, so I've just assumed we'd bumble along as we have been then stop when she leaves.
However, when I was at her's on Sunday, she was in the toilet and I saw her get a notification of a tinder message. I managed to manipulate an excuse to question her about it without actually admitting what I saw (when she was setting her alarm, I casually looked over her shoulder, and made sure to see the app icon), and she just casually said she was using it for the lolz, and thought it would be fun to swipe right and left, but had no intention of ever even talking to people.
I'm not sure I have any right to be annoyed really, but I can't help but be a bit stung about it. The thought of her going off shagging random blokes in London genuinely doesn't bother me, but the thought of her being on tinder while she's still here....I dunno. Even though she's done fuck all wrong.
I think the main thing that bothers me is that our mutual male friends have asked like "oh so you and [insert name], what is going on there? how serious is it?", and I've genuinely been like "I dunno", but now I know there's a pretty high likelihood that for all these weeks I've been giving unsure answers, they've probably seen her on tinder themselves. Oh well.
Play it cool.
Cuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck
Mert will explode if he sees that post.
We don't argue that often, but the missus does get moody when I don't hear what she says. I don't get it as obviously my concentration is on whatever I'm doing/thinking at that point and it's not that hard to repeat yourself. Small annoyances like that are weekly. I almost never know who she is talking about when she talks about her friends as they're mostly people I've seen rarely and they are usually not that riveting. I do that sentence thing, but it's only because I forget what I was about to say if its nothing important.
@Scouse
I've started saying 'cool story bro' to my mrs. #Yolo
Igor for fucks sake. Nicka be a straight up gamma with talk like that.
We argue all the fucking time and I love it. Thankfully we make up during violent and passionate sex.
That's not true. The last bit.
:(
Thing is it isn't like I'm love with her or anything, I'm quite happy to be casual and uncommitted. Its almost like we're sorta acting out a relationship, and seeing the tinder thing just broke the fourth wall.
To be honest, I think part of the problem is that I don't really want anything long-term, and I think she knows that. I get the impression that if I ever say "lets give this a real go" she might be up for it.
It is mostly dickheadery and having my cake and eating it from me. I don't want my feelings hurt by her swiping right on tinder and having all my mates know she's "on the market", but I don't really wanna offer anything in return.
Like I said, I'm absolutely happy for her to start dating other people when she moves to London, and I intend to do the same in the mid lanz, but it was just a bit of a shock to the system that she was on tinder now.
Or he could fuck you. Whatevs.
Nah, I don't know about that. She's given plenty of signals that she's into something more committed. Before she went travelling she was very keen on keeping it really secretive (just broke up with her boyfriend, was going travelling for ages), but since she got back, she's been pretty open about the fact she's sleeping with me, introduced me to her parents, and is always talking about the future, albeit in a vague open-ended way (she keeps talking about how we should go travelling to places).
She wasn't at all jealous before either, and quite recently she called me a "dickhead" because she thought I still fancied my ex ( i don't).
She was also intending to move to London as soon as she got back from her travels, but she's sorta made excuses to dick around in the midlanz for another month, then another month etc etc. I feel like her getting tinder might almost be a bit of a "fuck you then" for not making the movez.
If I wanted something committed I'd definitely be happy to have the conversation. But I'm just not sure. Heart says yes, head says no I suppose.
Im pretty much destined to be alone. I'd have no tolerance for bullshit arguments these days that even if I did manage to get a girl to settle (unlikely) she'd get frustrated at my lack of enthusiasm for eastenders or some other peasant bitch drama.
She's also make me get rid of my candle blowtorch and fuck that.
https://i.imgsafe.org/4255fddb36.jpg
I've spent years studying the matter extensively from multiple sources.
What kind of ridiculous scale i that? I'm starting to believe some of these gauges aren't real.
That sounds like bullshit to me but you're the one with the detector.
Think I've picked up a psycho. She's been away in Australia for three weeks and I'm really tempted to block her. She comes back after Valentine's Day so I'm hoping by not getting anything she'll kick off and give reason to end it
Edit: obviously after my birthday on the 19th of course.
Are you kidding me? No way you are this much of a spineless pussy. She is using you as emotional support, while getting banged out on the side by alphas who are better than you, and use her only as a sexual object. You are a placeholder until one of them shows more interest in her.
Let me guess, she doesn't like giving blow jobs? She won't let you do anal? Insists on you going down on her frequently?
I think it sort of works both ways. I think there is some truth to the idea of her using me for emotional support and shit, but I don't think what I'm getting out of it is hugely different. And no, she is very giving sexually, probably one of the least selfish girls I've been with in that sense.
I think If i was really unambiguously into her, the first bit would have been on the money, but as it is it feels like we're sorta acting out a kind of pseudo-relationship, deriving emotional security from each other without either of us really wanting to commit to it.
I have been on dates and snogged other girls and stuff since we've started seeing each other, and would have had sex with a random tinder girl if she didn't quickly reveal herself to be a total headcase. The only difference is I knocked it on the head when she came back from travelling cus I wanted to see how it would progress, whereas she seemingly never did.
The difference is she can walk outside and get laid with guys 2-3 points better than her on any given night with little to no effort. You cannot do that. The relationship is inherently unequal if there is an open relationship; you are openly rationalizing being c-worded (which I haven't used till this point because Ital threatened me like the tyrant Leftist he is). Anyways you can just tell her that it's unacceptable to use Tinder and that you won't continue seeing her if she does as much. And then fuck other girls on the side anyways. You're just giving up ground because of your fear of confrontation and not wanting to be "needy"- the latter being your rationalization for the former.
You should bin law school off and become a psychoanalyst or marriage counselor, Mert. You seem to know exactly what everyone else is thinking at any given moment. It's very impressive.
Luckily anyone who takes Mert seriously on any subject whatsoever is a grade a spastic. Its just regurgitated bullshit he's read online, ad infinitum.
Which is exactly what insecure beta cuck fuckwits do.
Crying into his pillow as his missus screams "My boyfriend is a fat Turkish cunt" while riding the football team's cock train.
With the TV issue, we were having this debate Sunday morning at football. I can tolerate emmerdale and corrie, but when she puts on something like big brother I struggle to even stay in the room. It's just people constantly shouting at each other. I've no idea what anyone gets out of it.
Luckily she gets this and generally goes upstairs to watch it. It's a great excuse for us to be in different rooms.
Obviously Magic's is a higher octane situation with the marriage and the kid, but that relationship sounds every bit as dysfunctional.
Watching different TV is fine, but from the face it it you should knock it on the head altogether. Sounds like an awful setup.
I can't abide that vet thing or the spaz dating thing mine watches but I don't be waiting for either to come on so it's an excuse to get away from her.
_
Is your girlfriend a teacher as well, Scouse?
I knew if I mentioned a couple of negative points in our relationship, the TTH brigade would be clambering for it to end. So predictable. Small petty arguments, difference in TV taste - end it now!!
Aye she is Boydy.
Big enough issue to bring it up on here, though. Arguing in general is pointless. Once somebody raises their voice they're never going to concede. Best thing you can do is irritate them to the point where they want to smack you and then laugh at them.
With the GCSE changes it seems like all the teachers at my wife's school are either off sick or getting pregnant just to get away from it.
It's just somewhere to chat about these things Offshore. Somebody started a thread on the other forum I post on, so I thought I'd mention it here too.
We're primary Wullie, but it's not dissimilar with regards the general feeling.
Fair enough. Having grown up with a mother that will start an argument over absolutely anything I don't have any time for it. Just like watching Big Brother and Jeremy Kyle, there's no benefit, only frustration.
For the record, we've been living together for a year now and I imagine the occasional petty squabble isn't uncommon.
With regards the future, who knows. For the vast majority of time we get on well, and she's made me as happy as I can remember for a long time. We have similar interests in many aspects, but completely different when it comes to things like music, film and she can't stand football.
Me and my girlfriend went 'Facebook official' yesterday apparently.
It's been 5 months on Friday and she's pretty boss. :cool2:
Congratulations mike. One of us.
I've booked a table at a tapas restaurant for our anniversary on Friday. We're doing that as a kind of joint Valentine's/anniversary thing as we're out tomorrow anyway and her mum is staying over in the evening. Haven't bought anything yet for either though. Does a card, flowers and maybe some chocolates suffice for Valentine's? I can't think of what to get her for the anniversary though. I know she's got me some aftershave but I got her perfume for Christmas a couple of months before so might have to think of something else. She loves Pandora and I've got her charms from there before but I think she's got enough of them.
I'm going to order a pizza for the missus tomorrow and give her a card and some roses. That's enough really.
Re: arguing. I think me and the missus has had one or two sort of shouting arguments over the past 3 years. I don't think either of us can be bothered with it.
Probably have one row a year. Been together 5 years. We don't really do petty little arguments, just save it all up for the big un.
Oh and fuck Valentine's Day, we won't do owt.
I've bought her some roses and some fancy prosecco (well it's in a box) as it's her favourite, and a nice card.
For our anniversary, and I don't know if this is really sad, but I've ordered her a personalised candle set, and a personalised wine goblet thingy.
We have a few petty arguments here and there, but rarely anything semi-serious. She's a bit of a 'mare at the moment because she's stressing about the house.
We have a tendency for one of us to go into a little strop, the other one to take the piss out of it and then we forget what it was about to begin with. Too lazy for big screaming matches.
We had two types of argument, one was along the lines of which version of Thomas Crown was better or if Demolition Man was a comedy or not. The other was always because she was worried about something and I wasn't and that somehow meant I didn't care or take it seriously rather than the truth which was that I didn't see the point in worrying about something out of our control so I would simply decide not to.
What happened to you and your girlfriend, mert? Did you bin her off after graduation?
I'll be staying in with the mrs and having steak and a few drinks once the baby is in bed. I've never really given a fuck about Valentines so it's just a normal night but with a decent dinner.
She asked me if it was okay last week and I didn't twig until the other day. And it's definitely not the latter.
They're going on a spa break Wednesday and seeing as we're meeting up tomorrow anyway, it makes more sense for her to come back with us and stay here so that they can go together. It would probably have made even more sense for them both to go back to her mum's, which would have been more demoralising.
Would it? Give me a choice between my mother in law staying over on Valentines and the house to myself for a night and I know how I'd choose.
We're not doing anything. Valentines. :sick:
I get on well with her Spikey, but point taken.
I get on with mine too, but still. Eastenders, chit-chat and a third of a glass of wine.
-OR-
Fifa, a Chinese and a 4 pack of Supermarket ownbrand lager.
Turf them both out, son.
Parody of what?
Yourself.
You're very like a Taz minus the humour in that way.
Roses are such a waste of time.
I've gone for some autismo chocolates from Guernsey's answer to Randrew. At least there's some pleasure to be derived from them rather than some pointless (sic) weaponised plant.
Might buy some cookies for myself from Morrisons tomorrow. Closest I'll get to romance all year.
Come back Taz.
Taz :drool:
I think I had him as one of my three 'best posters' every single year.
You could say he was a "Don"
He was quite rightly lolled into the ground for that.
That massive breakdown in the WDYTOE thread was the end for him.
Taz was from MK, he was just trying to support his local team. Like LeeCovFox. It was all a big misunderstanding. :(
Someone's bound to have him on facebook. Message him and tell him to come back.
Lee turned out to be a rat though.
Mhm, you forgot smug though.
Mike has donned it. :cool:
Pffft. The only one oppressed here's your poor girlfriend if you have one, who has to see you on a frequent basis.
I'm starting to wonder if someone cut your balls off at some point, or maybe if you're shooting blanks and know it deep down perhaps. Because no one, and I mean no one, is as insecure about their own masculinity as you are. If someone told me I was twice the man you are, I'd laugh at the petty insult. Ten times isn't even enough, you worthless little maggot.
The wife is going out with my sister on valentines to the pictures. Fuck em.
Meanwhile in Sweden, women told not to go out at night in order to avoid being raped:
https://mobile.twitter.com/TEN_GOP/s...92833652453377
Is this what feminism looks like now?
Each time you post a non-rebuttal like that as though it's an argument ender you make yourself look exponentially more thick, Mert.
Loads of fighting, loads of shagging leads to a happy marriage.
We're through in Edinburgh tonight. Had an awesome Thai lunch, drinks and a fairly decent dinner before a few drinks and back to the hotel.
Out having a smoke now but a pretty successful time even if it is a day early.
PS the only thing Mike dons is who is the gayest brother which is obvious a harder accolade to achieve than it looks.
Any good?
Yeah really good actually. Proper authentic street food at decent prices unlike Chaophraya.
I think we were £25 for 2 mains, 3 sides and 2 beers.
Had a dirty weekend with some blonde ting just gone. Nothing doing today. First time in four years I've got my own company. Brill.
Best valentine's ever though. CL + LUFC on t'wireless. Just had a cheeky Danish and some honey'd Rooibos tea. Peaked.
You'll be drunk and talking about murdering your in-laws by 11.
Nah mate, feeling pretty rank and still hungover from last night.
I know I can't really talk after my incomprehensible previous posts in this thread, but I've got a pretty funny story.
There's this guy from a couple of years below me at school, he went out with a good female friend of mine for a few years when they were 16 until about 21. He's always been a really nice guy on the surface, but one of the wettest wussiest people I've ever met. One of those people who is so relentlessly nice but in a obviously fake way, and just devoid of any substance.
Best way I can give an example is he recently unironically posted an "arty" photo of himself on facebook by the Brandenburg gate, wearing a silly colourful umbrella, and making a serious face. Except it was photoshopped so everything was black and white except the umbrella. 40 likes makes me question the future of our species.
Anyway, he's been going out with this ADMITTEDLY really hot cheerleader girl for a while, and they planned this massive year-long, around the world trip together. Cost thousands and thousands. My mate sent an innocuous "good luck with your trip! how's life" message, and he told her that the cheerleader girl had slept with someone else, they "worked through it", and then about 2 weeks later she admitted that she'd actually been sleeping with this other guy regularly for about 2 months. So he broke up with her.
Problem is, the holiday is all in her name, but he paid for most of it! So he's just doing the year long trip around the world with the girl he's just broken up with. Brutal. Naturally they're both producing unbearable charlieissocoollike style Vlogs of their trip, complete with jump-cuts and fake smiles. I'm finding them pretty compulsive viewing, and can't help but be perversely amused by him pretending to be excited by whatever fucking mountain they're climbing in New Zealand or whatever it is in each episode, totally dead behind the eyes. I'm a cunt.
The only way he can pull that back is by lamping her.
He'll run their hire car off the road in the last video.
He sounds like a narcissistic prick.
Booking it in her name? The fuck was he playing at.
Heaven help us when Mert gets in here and reads that post.
Now THAT is a Cuck.
How fucked up is this:
One of the wife's mates from maternity classes said she was having a really rough time and wanted to get out of her relationship. So they went for a walk last night then when she came back she told me that the boyfriend's 13 year old nephew had been getting her 4 year old kid to suck him off every time he was round there. It had apparently been going on for ages until he told his mum. They got the police involved but the kid won't tell them, and it has to come from him. The whole family is writing it off as 'boys will be boys' and curiosity but it just sounds so fucked up to me. When I was 13...I mean 13! I'd say the acceptable age for writing it off as that is probably 7...8 at an absolute push?
Fucking sick of this child abuse shit. What is wrong with people.
Also we're going to a wedding this weekend where the groom had an affair with one of his pupils who had just turned 16 (safe to say it was going on before too) and wanted to leave his fiance for her until the coppers got involved. Anyway his fiance quickly had unprotected 'revenge' sex she called it to get herself pregnant and blackmail him in to staying with her. It also kept him out of jail, according to the judge.
:D
So anyone who thinks their relationship is fucked, think of these poor cunts.
Just another weekend in post-industrial Scotland.
Yours is still worse.
Depends on the 13yo as to whether they should know better. A lot of people are getting to adult age and because of being thick/shit parenting don't know anywhere near as much as they should.
Bollocks.
Well, yeah, I mean they should know better. I should have phrased it better. I'm just saying shit parents = shit children. We're all products of our environment.
Magics just angry no-one wanted to suck him off at 13.
'Wanted' is a strange word to use there in reference to a story about a four year old being forced to suck a dick.
Magic is just annoyed he wasn't strong enough to force a 4 year old to suck him off at 13.
Happy?
The kind of people do you socialize with Magic :sick:
They aren't my mates!
Again that's the wife's friend is the bride. None of her family are going (none! not even distant cousins or anything). Imagine that. Fucking horrible psychos.
Wait! Is the 4 year old a boy?
Yes. It's homosexual, incestual paedophilia in my book.
Yep, no positives to be taken there. And ignore that PM asking if there really is a video. :rosebud:
I'll Snapchat you it in exchange for John's details.
Lol was at tr paedo wedding and the paedo cousin thing couple were there and it all came to a nice head.
Not a great choice of wording there.
Lol so further to this paedo cousin the 4 y0 boy's mum was there, she is pretty fit. Her boyfriend was too at night, but she'd been blabbing about it to all the other girls so there were loads of tears etc and he was obviously uncomfortable as fuck. Later on in the night she wanted to dance with me (like, really dance) and I was pretty freaked out by how forward it was. Her BF was in the corner and the in-laws were sitting right on the dance floor so kind of avoided the situation (and had a tremendous wank the next day). Was feeling pretty erotic that she so clearly wanted me.
Anyhow it transpires later today that the wife bumped in to one of the other girls that was there and explained that she was off her face on coke and how disappointed she was. I acted all surprised but secretly I was devastated to be the subject of coke goggles. She probably doesn't even remember. Self esteem taking a pounding.
Coke goggles aren't a thing.
She most likely seen you as a little melt she could unload all her problems on whilst out her tits.
But there were no words. Just mild dirty dancing and really (really) sexual looks.
EDIT: Maybe they were looks of utter despair and destitution.
EDIT 2: Maybe I should have unloaded myself all over her tits.
Sounds like she had Coke burps. Sorry.
She was doing it with a 41 year old mother as well. Belter. See that mad cunt that tried to kill 4 people in Dundee?
Was it the 13 year old?
Was your wife not at the wedding?
Yes.
Did she not see the really (really) sexual looks?
Did you not think to try and get some three-way action with the cokehead?
Anniversary today. Completely forgot. Luckily so did the wife. Not sure if that's a bullet dodged or a golden opportunity missed.
I'd my pre marriage course at the weekend.
Group interactions with wanker couples :sick: Some cunt decided it was his life's mission to make me participate too. He failed.
What the fuck is that. :D
A what?
Is that a church thing?
'How to be happy.'
Yep. Before you can get married in one you've to go for an appointment with things like baptism certs, witness details, passports, etc and the cert from that course is one of the required documents too. There's a state body that runs it for the church these days rather than the church themselves so there's only about 10 minutes of religion in the two days of it. Mainly focuses on conflict resolution, parenting, and stuff like that. Has a handy section on getting all the required documents and timelines too.
I assume there was a fee.
I did the pre-marriage classes as well. It was awful although I did find the part about the menstrual cycles pretty interesting. The rest of it was some couple talking about how they made their marriage work coz of Jesus.
A fucking marriage course :D
Is this some loser Catholic thing?
Didn't know there were baptism certificates. Does the UK have these for christenings?
I had to get the letter of freedom from the government and my baptism church in Italy.
Even had my parents writing to my local parish church saying they had no reasons to object. Such a weird bunch.
Good work, Gigs.
Thinking of getting the little man wetted to increase his future opportunities.
Marriage is in fucking tatters. Laugh if you want it's the least I deserve. What a fucking mug!!! Feel like chucking myself off the Tay bridge. Certainly the least painful outcome and over in a few seconds.
Good man. We needed this for a bit of traffic today.
What've you done?
Can I have that Instant Pot thing you've been going on about?
I'm looking out onto the Tay Bridge and can't see MJ.
Him fucking off straight after the post hasn't helped one bit.
She must have regained consciousness.
You know what...I don't even want to fucking talk about it. I have nobody to talk about this shit to in real life so why should I on a fake messageboard.
Dead right too.
It's a real messageboard IIRC.
Are you guys not aware it's only a figment of our collective imagination? Lol @ the realisation when you come to.
I need to boil the bitch's head on manual for 60 minutes high pressure first.
Fucking hell he's done them in.
Give TTH a shout out in the court room.
This is all getting brought up as evidence.
Fine I'll tell.
She was out last night and I asked her not to be too late (i.e 3am+) because I wanted to go out on the bike in the morning about 10am. I also ask her to text when she's on her way home as I have adult abandonment issues (because my Dad left us to raise someone else's kids and my mum was like a ghost) resulting in anxiety and crippling insomnia. She normally never does but fine whatever, few drinks and that.
Anyway she rolls in at 4:30am and I asked WTF because 'da clubs' close at 3am and she said 'took ages to get a taxi'. I called her a liar, without insinuating anything, and she tells me she doesn't care, has no interest in me, had 3 other offers that night but chose not to for whatever reason (even to go back to some guy's flat, charming). I was determined not to be sucked in to this bullshit but anyway I spent the entire night awake until our child got up at half 7.
I then spent the morning googling divorce (are you ready etc) and I don't think I am. The ramifications just seem to harsh*. That's not to say she isn't. I told her to have a look in to it and come up with an answer and her reply was to go and stay at her mum's (and take our kid too). I just lost it really, how dare she suggest that as a plausible next step to resolving this, to take my fucking kid away. She didn't, but I'm still raging at this behaviour, it fucking stinks even if I am a cunt or whatever. Just totally down the drain for the past few months, I don't know it is like I am living with someone, stuck, caged, comfortable (I guess). Two completely different people can have successful relationship but I feel like we are in completely different fucking galaxies.
*I'm well aware that's not a reason to stay in a failing marriage and I don't think it's a cop out either.
EDIT: I also think it's sweet that she's spending my hard earnt flirting and who knows what else. Fucking bitch.
Get a grip lad.
To paint a clearer picture, it's not like it's been rosy, rosy, rosy, that.
It's been slowly degrading to a toxic pool of shit.
I actually feel ashamed for keeping that from you guys and lying to you. :(
Stays out later than you asked. Forgot to text you. 'Divorce!'
Bloody hell I'd still be a virgin if my missus was as soft as you.
Have you thought about getting a dog?
Why does mert only turn up at my most critical beta moments ffs.
Anybody that thinks they deserve a well done for not cheating on their husband shouldn't be raising a child.
You need to put your differences aside. If you're arguing, the child can hear and you can bet it'll have an effect later in life if it carries on.
That's the spirit.
Magic, at this stage you need to quietly look into an exit strategy which maximizes the assets you retain and access to your child. Reach out to a lawyer. There are things you can do such as sell items you own to your buddies for like $0.01, if you have liquid money in accounts, quietly withdraw and buy assets (which you then sell to buddies) or ask your boss to delay promotions / bonus payouts, etc. I'm sorry this happened to you, 2017 is a nightmare to get married.
On the flip side, you'll be relatively young with enough time / drive to catch a second wind at life. Get in shape, move somewhere new, do exciting things, etc. Fuck that bitch and move on.
Honestly just cut your losses and get out as soon as you can. Move to a new country, cut contact with your old friends (except close family), maybe go to one of the Commonwealth Islands and work in tourism for a little bit. Get a tan, get seriously in shape, build up some money and experience, and fuck a bunch of horny women on vacation. Didn't you play an instrument, work as a bartender / live musician. Do the circuit of bars on your island. Come back in a few years and reevaluate.
Seriously. This is a blessing. This is your out. When you come back you can reconnect with your daughter, explain to her what her mother did. She will understand and forgive you, especially if you come back with a new found alpha chip on your shoulder.
That advise is gold. :D
I'm not kidding breh. If you do it, I'll spend my first self-financed holiday to come visit you in whatever tropical country you end up at. You only live once, this is your last chance at experiencing something nearing happiness and coming out the other end a better man.
Do Scottish citizens have work-permit issues in Commonwealth countries?
Sorry you have to go through this Magic. The stuff with the wife too.
Wife cheating on you? Become a club 18-30 rep! Nevermind the kid, she can look after herself now.
Generally the best solution to difficult situations is to run off to The Pitcairn Islands or whatever
Mert must think I'm a high profile partner in a City corporate law firm and not a phone line tester.
Whiteness is a strong indicator of status / competence in ethnic countries. You could be a bartender / musician / branch out into tourism. Get affiliated with a well established company, demonstrate competence, lateral into a reasonable management job back in the UK after a few years.
It's my backup plan if I ever go through a bad divorce / something goes wrong with my life plan.
Tourism in Greece?
That would work but I assume there would be issues with Brexit?
Tourism in Turkey :harold:
https://youtu.be/4NFv5IGP2uA
I figured that would be Mert's back up plan.
Reality vs expectation.
https://youtu.be/WYX0sjP6Za8
I know it's not really in the spirit of the community, but I genuinely feel really sad for you MJ. :console:
Me too MJ, sorry to hear about your situation in case I hadn't made that clear.
Sounds like Mert's got himself a cuck. Looks like a really shit situation that's been brewing for a while and seems irreversible. Rough.
:hug: @Magic :(
It was probably you that asked her back to your flat.
If you're not pretty rich / high status male / lusted after by your secretaries by the time you have kids with your wife, you're fucked. You have 0 leverage in the situation.
I don't want to kick a geezer when he's down, but I'm going to anyway. All of this has boiled over because she rolled in at 4:30am on a girls night out?
Er, what?
Stick some PS4 on, stick a movie on or, I don't know, wank yourself silly to your murder porn all night and revel in the peace and quiet. Why are you making a song and dance over her not pandering to your text message needs? Fucking grow a set and stop being so needy. I know this whole thing is bigger than just this one night but if arguments can kick off as easily as this then you may as well pack up and give in now because you've got no chance in the long run.
Another one incapable of reading.
Sounds like MJ needs to lend his book to his wife.
Remember a) he's married to a Chinese, who was conditioned from birth never to disagree with a man; and b) he's still letting her move him to China roflmao
How I am perceived in America:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_ethnic
Martin :D
Funnily enough where I come from 'Martin' sounds like 'Mertin'.
Surely that should be Mertineh.
Is what acceptable? That she goes out for a night out with her mates and comes back a little late? As long as it's not recurring, it's fine as a one-off.
Lol at Lewis knowing zero of the details. The wife wanted to apply for a green card here until I suggested moving to China. Pipe down.
Have you done it, then? Moved to China?
Moving this summer. Can't believe I've lived in Murica for 6 years now. I'll be sad to leave when it comes to it because I've come to love DC, but it's time to move on. I think I'll be back in future, who knows.
What's happened since, @Magic?
Where are you originally from 7om?
Is your wife Chinese? I'm missing the context here.
He's a Brummie isn't he?
He is indeed.
On the plus side, he can be pals with Oscar.
Long time coming. Get out you maggot.
Don't be a pussy, you can wingman me with your Brummie accent, we could probably make it work @7om
Birmingham, born and raised, although I've lost the accent mostly now. When I fist came over here I thought I would have no problems with the language but it actually was a hurdle I had to clear. No slang, no brummie accent.
To be honest, Mert, I would be an amazing wingman here. The accent gets a lot of attention but of course I can't make full use of it's potential.
My friend's brother moved to Jerusalem in September, and he has had to ditch his slight Midlands accent (from Nuneaton) for what he thinks is a clear one, but which just makes him sound like a gay robot.
Low key I have gone 9 nights in a row where I hookup with a girl I met at the bar, I don't go out often but I'm drunk right now after fucking another girl, I feel like a God,
And yet in my heart the insecurity persists. How to overcome God knows.
I often feel the need to tell people I don't care about how much DEFINITELY REAL sex I'm having.
No offence Mert but I can't find the passage in the bible where God spent a week going after several different women. I mean, there's that bit where he knocked one of them up but no more.
Yeah @Magic, did you get out of the strop after or is damage done?
@Magic, update us.
Just shit mate. Fuck all to update. I didn't want to say anything because everything I post now can be thrown back to loldivorce but oh well.
:(
Everyone on this forum is truly (although they might not admit it) routing for you man.
Have you considered councilling?
Obviously that is aimed at @Magic and his Mrs, but @Boydy and @leedsrevolution are also invited to consider it.
Think that's it lads. Was trying to find a playlist (one for sex ahaha what a chump right!) on her phone and a message popped up from a bloke I knew she'd been talking to (comments on FB and shit) I said what's that 'nothing' can you open it then if it's nothing and it was a naked pic of him. I just told her to get to fuck by the time I'm back.
Jesus.
All because he had a bigger dick than you, poor form.
Advice is welcome genuinely though. I feel like I'm going mad and I don't have anyone I'm not utterly embarrassed to talk to.
Love the poker face there. Check if you don't believe me! It's nothing!
Ah shite.
Ffs.
Well, not really much left to do is there? Talk to a lawyer? Might as well get the upper hand in the negotiations.
Genuinely sorry, I always thought the three of you looked like a beautifulday family.
And do what's best for the kid. Hopefully you get to keep custody.
Sorry. If you need space I get it! I'd be raging too but please know that I have not done anything to encourage that photo or any attention from him. I'm not a liar and you CAN trust me. I need to know how you feel but understand that you need time to think things through. This can work but at the moment it's not as we're nit working together. If you think we can then great, if not...
Please phone/text soon x
So confused my head is fucked.
People don't just send other people pictures of their bits unprovoked.
That was my argument. I didn't see the precursor to it either in hindsight I wish I had but she's no doubt deleted it.
99% of things are fair game in my book but fucking wind it in Mahow.
Does a man ever get to keep custody? I thought the law was 100% geared toward the mother no matter what she does.
Mj :(
I went to pick my daughter up and buckled. I have swallowed my pride until I decide what to do.
People may send randoms on Twitter pictures of their manhood, but nobody is sending someone they know such pictures unless they have good reason to believe they are welcome. Maybe she just flirted a bit out of frustration and he's read too much into it and sent it, or, maybe they've been up to all sorts. Until she's been honest about it - because 'ah dinnae de nuthan' is bullshit - there is no scope for this ending in anything but a break up. Whatever you decide; sleep on it before you commit to it.
Yeah, that's a problem.
My mate stumbled across a chat in which his girlfriend and some bloke had shared pictures and been talking about doing stuff to each other. She claimed it never got to that point and she was only doing it because she enjoyed the attention, which she was no longer getting from my mate. They ended up sorting things out for a bit, though eventually did realise they weren't happy together and broke up.
How does she know the bloke? What was her reaction to the naked picture?
I don't know if I'd be able to get a situation like this out of my head, so for me it'd be game over, but there is a possibility that the picture was sent with minor encouragement imo.
They went to school together. Hes a fucking kickboxer and built like fuck (obviously!). So he could be just an arrogant dafty.
Her reaction is irrelevant because I was there. She initially said it was his friend which was interesting. How much do you read in to it? Was it totally unexpected genuinely? Whe didnt seem that bothered until I told her I wanted her in out. Ah fuck knows. Her Gran is just out of hospital and her grandad is almost dead. She went round to her mums and no doubt they explained I was being selfish in the grand scheme of things upsetting her like that given everything else that is happening. Another reason to dislike me no doubt.
Let's go to Goa and have a Cobra and a Chilli Massala, bro x
Magic. :(
Get yourself a good lawyer tomorrow.
I don't know if her reaction is irrelevant. You can always look into these things. Was the naked pic the pic that popped up as a notification or had she already seen it?
Deleting messages is dodgy as fuck. I think to get over it you'd need to see a full transcript where she isn't guilty, as opposed to having to fill in blanks in your head.
The relationship is completely fucked, but if there's a way to salvage it for the kid then I think you should try. The only issue is whether you can have a relationship without constant breakdowns because ultimately that'd be worse for your daughter than divorce.
Has she deleted her chat history with him? If not, go through it. If she has, then she's hiding her affair.
I don't know how you come back from that. Even if there's nothing in it, the seeds are there. Actually, even if there's nothing in it, she knows the bother you two are having. Why let that shit pop up?
On one hand, I wouldn't be so fast to judge. I mean, there's a good 95% chance that she's fucking around on him. But I know of people who have sent/received unsolicited dick photos. It's not always welcome.
On the other hand, the fact she tried to hide it moves the 95% to 99%.
She'd be better off putting his mind at ease by showing it to him and going, "Lol, look at his bent cock!"
Ferreting out the truth is somewhat pointless, it does more damage than good. Either there's trust or there isn't, decide which way you want this to go and move forward from there.
So should I re-send so she has a fresh copy, or no?
Serious though that sounds a bit fucked. Even if she didn't initiate, a naked picture isn't just sent out of the blue to someone who is known to be married with a kid.
Probably need to give it a few days and some space Andy to get your head around it before rushing into something.
She messaged him and explained it wasn't on and that I've seen it. He said it wasn't intended to be sent.
I said lying cunt and she's packing a bag as we speak. :harold:
Also imagine if our kid had clicked on it when she was watching youtube or something.
Does she seem to feel bad at all? It sounds as if she's trying to brush it off a bit too much to me.
Hard to gauge though really cos if she comes across as sad and apologetic it's like she's actually done all the bad things you fear, but if she's too nonchalant it doesn't wash as really if nothing was going on she should be like 'omg what the hell?' and be encouraging you to go round and have your head kickboxed off, but making it known it's not on and that she's not into it so he better stop or else you'll have his broadband cut off.
Lawyer up and kick out the jams.
I agree with lawyering up in the first instance, particularly given the current situation.
Yeah I recon she's done sumat. Pretty shit mate sorry to hear it.
Disco makes a good point. If the trust is gone, its probably only a matter of time anyway. You should definitely have a lawyer in the waiting, but only you know her well enough to figure out whether you trust her and whether the marriage can work.
The photo being sent by mistake sounds like bullshit, and her deleting the conversation is suspect. How does she know this bloke?
School. I don't know more than that.
None of us can judge the situation as a whole, but there are about 5 pointers towards her being a manipulative cow here and very little evidence to the contrary.
Do you want the marriage to work for any reason other than your daughter?
Magic :(
Keeping marriages for the sake of the kids doesn't work imo. Better to see your parents separately but happy. It is not as if they don't realize you're fighting.
I'd agree with that. My relationship with my dad was definitely better post-divorce. Did a lot more things we probably wouldn't have done if I didn't have planned visits.
Yeah, get out and let her do all the boring discipline shit during the week and you can be the fun one on weekends.
It's easy to say, but once some cunt wades in and is living in your house acting daddy then it's a lonely sad world I'd imagine. It's just a shit situation with only horrible answers, I just hope Magic has someone there he can reach out to because it has got to be hell.
I would have hated it if my parents had stayed together for 'my sake'.
Both at the time because it's horrible living in a household where you know your parents aren't getting on, but also later when I found out (which inevitably will happen at some point) because of the guilt of knowing they suffered through it for me.
You could easily blame your ME on them, so I'd call it even.
Yeah, my parents got married because of me and all I remember is them screaming at each other then being miserable after separating. Ultimately they're bellends that never figured out to be happy which meant I adopted a lot of those traits and have been slowly discarding them since. They're a large part of why I don't want to live in Jersey. So, basically, do what you have to do to be happy and just remember that children aren't as stupid as they seem.
If/when you do separate, try not to project any hatred or negative emotions you feel towards your wife onto your daughter.
My Dad used to do that when he got drunk when I was a kid. It was fucking brutal and a prime reason as to why I'm such a mess.
Dude that fucking sucks I'm sorry. I have family connections in Turkey (not kidding) if you want to seriously consider banging a bunch of Russians / Ukranians for a few months. It would set your mind straight.
And in case it isn't clear, there's a hard 0% reason for you to trust her. Have you tried talking to her mother? If you contacted her independently and described the situation she might do well as a mediator / knock some sense into her daughter. It's possible, and if there wasn't a kid I would never even suggest it, that it really is just a flirtation and which she now deeply regrets and wants to move on again as normal. People work through this stuff and it gets back to a reasonable relationship. There was shit with a family friend a few years back with the wife accusing him of some things, I don't think the guy in question ever did anything but I think there was definitely a woman who was sending him messages that he initially hid. They seem fine now it was just a minor scandal that everyone moved past when the next shiny social gossip came up (although it is seemingly psychologically different when it's the man being sketchy)...
Also, what's the background of your relationship? How did you two end up married in the first place? Was she a former slag? Was she ever 'fit'? How old is she? Has she recently lost weight? Are her friends single?
If anyone cares for the latest, it's that we've decided to bury it and pretend it never happened. I'll just have to accept it was a mistake and she didn't actually want it. I do wonder what would have happened had I not seen it, I'm just going to have to blind trust her.
Her parents told her if I didn't believe her then there are obviously deeper problems with trust etc, knew I could count on those fuckers to swing it back to me. I explained if I told any cunt else it would have been total opposite (for example my dad).
I've decided it isn't worth the relationship being destroyed over (this time I am almost sure 100% I am staying for my daughter). It's hard not to be swept up on a sea of paranoia but I have to stick to the facts here rather than filling in blanks. The whole thing pretty much sucks but I'm in Spain next week family free so that'll give me some time to reflect (and her to properly screw loads of people no doubt! lol).
NO! What are the chances that the one time you happened to be looking at her phone was also, in the exact same moment, the one time she received a nude picture on her phone. The chances of a coincidence like that are not fucking existent imo. And her parents are right, there are deeper issues of trust but there well should be if this is how she acts.
And how will it affect your feelings toward your daughter if she's the only thing keeping you in this messed up life (the relationship permeates everything)? I know you love her but subconsciously surely there will be some problems?
Yeah, go to Spain, breathe some fresh air but fuck, I don't see how you can stay with her in the long run. You're destroying yourself like this.
Ultimately it's your choice MJ. If you do forgive her though you can't bring it back up now, you have to really forgive it and try to move on. Have you thought about marriage counselling? I don't know if that works but might be worth a go?
The alternative. Both my step-parents are cunts and I really dislike them. Living on my own, losing my dream house in my dream area, there's a lot to lose. If she actually did anything I'd be filing no doubt, or if she was the one sending pics.
It's all proper confusing really, I didn't think I'd ever be in such a betacuck situation as this. It's like a fucking story out of one of those relationship help things in broadsheets.
Lawyer up and see what the sacrifices would be in the event you need to proceed with filing. If she's the one being dishonest / adulterous, then that surely puts you in a decent position if the worst comes to the worst.
You definitely shouldn't just assume the outcome if the marriage ends, without having a very blunt conversation with a lawyer. At least give yourself as many facts as possible before concluding on the best way forward.
Oh shit, you could legit hire a spy. Now that's pretty cool. You should do it.
Yeah, you really need to be getting legal advice now in case it does properly go down the pan with no road back. Be prepared for fuck's sake.
Mate... She deleted her chat history with him after you saw the photo. Say that back to yourself.
I'm calling bullshit on that. If that happened she'd just pretend to be annoyed at you until you caved and decided that you were making a fuss about nothing.
If you're staying in an unhappy relationship for the sake of your child then you're going to fuck her up. Don't bullshit yourself on this - that is what will happen.
If for some reason you want to stick around, then marriage counselling is probably the way forward because it all sounds fucked to me. If you give a shit about your child you'll either give that a go at that or end the whole thing. Don't just flounce around moaning on here about her instead of actually dealing with shit.
Everyone else is looking at it logically but it's a big thing to end a marriage and fuck three people up on the basis of a maybe, regardless of what anyone thinks.
You've got to go with your gut Magic.
I thought I was comfortable with the outcome (block and delete of the perp and move on) but I feel genuinely sick now.
I also am not comfortable with 'my gut' because I'm an emotionally retarded gimp who makes incredibly rash and stupid decisions.
I don't think you should allow yourself to be trapped in a relationship because it's the closest thing you have to a functioning family. Take the time to actually reflect. She should have to work for your trust because ultimately she's the one who has created the mistrust.
Yeah I'm with Adamski on this. It might definitely look like the right thing to do, but ending any relationship is hard enough. Let alone a marriage with a child. It may still come to it in the near future but at least he can look at himself in the mirror and his child in the eye and know he tried at least.
An option I'd really look at Magic is a move away. It'd be a big undertaking but, even though you can understand them looking out for their own, her family sound toxic to the whole relationship. I'd put it to her at least.
Kikos is a good point. By all rights she should still feel bad about it and show some remorse and make a massive effort to ensure you're OK. If that's not happening and she wants to act like it's not happened then that's worrying.
Has she though? Maybe she had done genuinely nothing to receive that and this guy was just testing the waters?
If some bird I'd been chatting with had sent me a nudey pic out of the blue I'd be a bit taken aback, and if she saw it I'd probably have a hard time explaining it.
I think you do, although I understand why you'd rather not countenance it.
Speaking to a lawyer to understand the situation isn't committing you to any particular course, and you're not definitely going to make a decision either way on the back of it. It's about giving yourself as many facts as possible to inform that decision. It's a no brainer at this stage, I'm afraid.
Well that's the feeling to focus on, isn't it.
I've read you writing on here about her for about 3 years so it's not like this is just a blip over the last few weeks. I'd suggest getting marriage counselling if you want to try and make it work, if only so you can have a mediator to help you both talk openly and honestly about things.
Well going off what you said, there seemed to be a history of Facebook back and forth between them. They know each other from school. There is dialogue between them frequently (otherwise there would be nothing to delete right?)
I get it. You're trying to see the best in her but it seems hugely unlikely that there wasn't something to prompt it. Think like a bloke, what could cause you to act like him?
And I've never had anyone send me there bits without a least me asking...
Yes some comments. There were other messages and now looking back I should have fucking read the whole conversation but I was just so like WTF I didn't think.
I dunno mate, I'm anything but a ripped fucking kickboxer so I wouldn't be sending full body shots to any cunt but if I was and I was single why not? Annoyingly I could live with a Snapchat because it could be sent en masse but this was a 1-1 conversation.
A ex-colleague accidentally snapped a photo of her in her bra to me, but it turned out it was a mass one which she apologised for on Facebook (lol). I've been out of the game for 9 years so I don't know what is acceptable behaviour now, honestly fuck knows. Snapchat, WhatsApp, there's so many avenues for potential shit you have to do nothing but blind faith.
Are you going to muddle on as before then?
She, after I had a total meltdown, showed 'remorse' and said if it was on other foot she'd be raging as well but that over the course of the day turned to anger and me making constant jibes and ignoring her which didn't help. We eventually had a cuddle. I can't keep referring back to it after I've said I will move on and forget it, but it's the only thing in my head right now.
I don't know what to do, I don't know how to act, I appreciate all the advice, but none of it sounds like what I want to hear...
What do I want to hear? Even I don't know. Ultimately I bet this is all my fault anyway, I haven't been a good husband.
Yes. Looking at it from a point of view is our marriage really that weak that it will collapse because some guy sent her an inappropriate photo?
I saw a thread on Reddit where a guy found photos on his wife's phones of some guy, now that's a whole different ball game.
Maybe I should counter this by trying to be the best husband ever.
You're trying to convince yourself that it's just a random photo that's been sent. It's not, as I said before the likelihood that this is the first one is really small and her deleting the conversation only backs that up. Don't minimize this, it's not ok and in fact it's in line with her previous behavior (telling you about the offers she received on a night out).
Listen to me, I know you think you have problems, and surely you do have some. But you are not the problem here. You are not the one who's received a nude. She's a terrible influence on you it seems to me, she's somehow manipulated you to the point that you see her getting this picture as you own fault for not being good enough. You talk a lot about the effect your parents and upbringing have had on your psyche and self-esteem but I think you understand the effect that she, and your marriage, have had similarly.
The main consideration is - assuming you do want to stick around - whether or not you both want to take responsibility for trying to improve the relationship. If you don't, if she's dragging her heels, then you should just end it now. Muddling along as before is a complete and utter bottle job, all things considered, and it'll only serve to fuck you all up even more as time goes on.
Hi, lads.
Hi, Magic. Shit to read what you're going through. As has been echoed already, just try to find it in you to get out and do what is undoubtedly the right thing.
Also, talk with some of your mates IRL. It's not embarrassing to admit that it's going down the pan and it will definitely help to talk to someone who can give you the support you need.
Hope it all works out for you and the kid. x
I feel like TTH is probably better-informed about Magic's marriage than nearly anyone else in his life, possibly including himself.
Remember you are only getting my side of the story. There's always two sides.
Yo @SvN, yo' got PM.
(Stop ignoring me please)
:D I got it when I was on my phone yesterday and couldn't be bothered to reply as I was at the pub. I've replied now.
Naked pics eh?
Can I just get clarification on this?
Your ultimate response then is to do nothing and to just carry on as before. Is that right?
No.
I think tonight because I am driving myself insane I will have a crunch talk. I want to know exactly the ins and outs of this so I can come to a well-informed decision.
After that, who knows. I feel like spewing at the moment to be honest. Had I not found that message who knows what may or may not have happened. That's speculation, right enough. I need to try and stick to facts.
My bet: she'll try and brush it off and say "Why are you still going on about this?". It's a well known tactic.
All I'll say is that had that been my wife, she'd be in a Premier Inn looking for other accommodation. This isn't a one off, especially if she's deleted the fucking chat for fuck sake. The red flags are everywhere.
Kids are resilient but they'll be damaged if you stay in a marriage for the sake of them, not just from the arguments but from the guilt of thinking that you sacrificed your happiness for their sake.
Giving the advice is easy, acting on it when it's your life and your family is quite another matter. I think some in this thread would do well to remember that.
Not claiming it is easy. Still the right thing to do (imo of course.)
This is now all your fault Pepe.
It's ok. If things don't work out I'm willing to take over as a surrogate father.
Magic does need a father figure.
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Cheers mate.
Would be interested to hear your story (if by PM if you prefer?).
I feel for you , Magic, purely because of the kid.
At our age I wouldn't have any reservations about booting out a woman and starting out again with someone else because, with all due respect, your marriage sounds fucking awful. Zero trust, a complete communication breakdown and the in-laws sound like a massive burden. But the presence of the kid makes a lot of the advice in the thread redundant unfortunately. I think we can all see how much you love your daughter and only seeing her two days per week or whatever it is? That is fucking heartbreaking shit.
So even though you've got, probably pretty sound, advice telling you to bail out for the kid I can see why you are thinking the exact opposite - because you don't want some kickboxing cunt taking your place Monday to Friday. My advice would be to try and sit down with the missus and have a calm and composed heart-to-heart. No sniping, no raised voices, just an honest and frank assessment of where the fuck you both are. At least clear both of your heads.
Magic, sorry to read about what you are going through. Some friends of mine had a similar situation going recently but got out of that it seemed.
Personally I think what Chris says makes sense. To me it still seems like your daughter is the most important thing here. And I don't get the impression your relationship is completely doomed, it genuinely seems like you want it to work at least. She's definitely acting shady as fuck. For instance for me a warning flag would be the fact that she seems to so willingly fuck off to her mothers' place to give you space when she also claims she didn't do anything. And the whole message history and all that.
But even if she had done something, or even just had a flirt with some sexting or whatever involved, is that not something some couples can come back from? Hell, people cheat and then go to councelling and come out a stronger couple, sometimes. Not always, but if there's 1% chance it's worth taking for your daughter, right? It doesn't hurt making sure you have a backup plan in the meantime. A sort of thing like this can also set a baseline for what is and isn't acceptable behaviour (it shouldn't be needed but sometimes it seems it is). For instance she's been off to 4.30AM once, so basically she can't really do that again if you have a talk and agree on what the things that have gone wrong are.
I'm not sure if I'm making sense to you here but anyway, I'll say follow your guts and it seems to me your guts tell you to stick around and try to make it work. And maybe to do that you'll need to adopt some sort of "fresh start" mentality, both of you to be honest. Maybe some time apart without the intention of splitting up, maybe a vacation if you can manage it. You know whatever.
Here's the other thing. The wife is on just over minimum wage. If we split up she'd have to move even if we did 50/50 or 60/40 or whatever it is she wouldn't be able to afford a house in a nice area (neither would I really!). That means moving the kid in to some fucking housing estate no doubt and going to a school full of cunts.
Child maintenance would be between £3-400 a month as well.
Swallowing your pride will be incredibly difficult, but I think you're doing the right thing by putting your daughter first. She won't feel guilty about it when she's older. When you agreed to have a child you knew the risks, and this was one of them. Get as much out of your wife as you can and make sure she's putting your daughter first as well.
Ok so she apparently told my mum, I totally forgot about this comment yesterday. I phoned her and asked her if she did, she said yes. She was at work though and is going to call me when she finishes. My dad cheated on her using an internet messageboard (Yahoo!) so should be interesting.
God the idea of my girlfriend/wife calling my mum up to discuss such things. I'm never going to be responsible ever.
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At this stage you'd be better off just letting her fuck whoever she wants, because she's going to do it anyway. At least this way there's no lying about it.
I'd forgot the bit a while back about Magics Mrs not coming home til all hours either. That's ominous.
Shit that was pretty similar. What do you reckon chances are of her doing it again?
Wow, that is spooky! Just shows what a major fucking problem social media must be in relationships. I bet a lot of us aren't even aware and stuff like this is going on behind our backs and it's just pure chance that we ever find out.
I'd like to say the whole 'meet up' sounds sinister but then I am not aware of the pre-text to the picture so who knows.
On the other hand, this has never really been a great relationship (I blame myself for that quite a bit).
As I said, I'm going to have that crunch talk tonight and keep calm. I've never lived on my own, I had really low confidence before I met her, with no aim or purpose in life really. I was failing college and a complete dickhead with the wrong crowd. She definitely did turn my life around.
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Right I'm pushing my missus down the stairs tonihht fuck all this.
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Ethical non-monogamy ftw.
I was going to say 'sexually open but emotionally monogamous', but that's a bit specific.
Honestly, if you're just staying together for the kids, it's probably a better option than just pretending you're not fucking other people.
It hasn't really filtered into the mainstream but it's pretty popular, truth be told. I know a lot of people who are either open or completely poly. I've a skewed sample in fairness, but still.
I phoned her, decided to just see where it took me.
tl;dr we're going to really try and make it work and persevere.
She told me her side, and you may all call me a mug, but I believe her, for better or for worse. I guess the next step now is sorting it all out, because this really is rock bottom.
It's all well and good saying you're going to 'really try' but what does that actually mean? I really think you should go to counselling somehow. Anyhow.
Did you say you had some time away coming up?
Could be an opportunity to try and think of what you miss while apart, not a bad idea to look at something positive rather than concentrating only on all the divisive stuff.
Fair play if you're both to have a crack at it. I echo Pepe and Boydy and suggest sitting down and chatting about how it's going to be different though, and look at counselling.
Another one of these posts:
Good luck Magic. It's a fuck awful situation to be in and I hope it works out for you.
If it were me I'd either be already out the door or installing some key logger app on her phone or something but no, I do not have a child, so that's probably not that constructive.
Inb4 'Gubbed Part II: The Night The Kickboxer Shattered My Jaw As Well As My Marriage'
Sorry, bruv. Anyway, I think you've made the right decision. I'd probably consider a PI tailing her movements for a bit, though. No joke.
He's got full custody of his kids. You know what to do, Magic.
That'll be karma for when he merk'd Beckham.
Yeah the real hard work starts now.
All the best with sorting everything out MAgic and I hope things fall in o place for you in one way or another :thbup:
Social media is not the one to blame here though. Speaking of which though, this all has reminded me of an really odd situation the missus got herself into a few years a go. She came to me with a message from course mate from uni whom I know as well where he pretty much professed his love (well in a really soft, has seen too many romcoms kind of way) in a facebook message. The missus shot him down of course, but I thought he was a massive twat as I've been pretty friendly towards him when we've met and he knew that we've been together for almost a decade. That said I knew he had some feelings towards the missus but first thought that he might have been gay and later on when asking about from the missus just decided that he was completely harmless. So I guess you could receive unwanted attention that's unprovoked, but the way you handle it is openness, not deleting stuff and blocking the other person before things have been cleared out.
Long and a relatively boring story short, I told the missus that I would prefer if she would cut all ties to her mate as he was trying to sneak his way in and told her that I would confront him about it we're we ever to meet as I think that kind of behaviour deserves to have some ramifications.
It's going to happen again. She just felt guilty and will be on her best behavior until she gets bored again (except this time she'll be operating from a position of even less respect for Magic because of how beta he was within the entire situation).
Yeah I'm surprised by the decision but I guess it's easier as an onlooker.
Good luck anyway - hope she at least tries harder, and let's you put that sex playlist on.
I'm inclined to agree with Mert if you're just planning on carrying on as before but 'trying harder'. Good luck with it though.
Hope this works out. I'd like to think you two are still together because there's a slither of what brought you together in the first place. Don't wind up like Mert: Lynched in a Texan oil field for hitting on his boss' 15-year old daughter.
If there wasn't a kid involved, this would be the only advice in the thread worth heeding. It still might be, if the general state of the relationship is so toxic and the arguments so frequent that your kid will pick up on it. It's not a particularly nice thought to countenance, but a child will assume their parent's relationship is normal, because it's the only one they truly know. Even if she comes to know intellectually that things can be and often are different, that seed is still planted early and it'll influence her own view of relationships. If you stay in a toxic relationship for her, she's more likely to stay in a toxic relationship herself in future.
It is a big deal. Don't let that slide for one second. If she tries to minimise the whole thing you have to make sure she understands that a married woman receiving a naked picture of someone she's known for years and is ostensibly friends with is not a trifle. As has been said, it would be different if this was a completely random event, but this is someone she knows and has a dialogue with, how many of the women you know and talk to would you send an unsolicited nude photo to?
If some bird you'd been talking to had sent you a photo out of the blue you'd be able to show her the rest of the conversation and demonstrate that you'd done nothing to invite such a photo. Had her conversation with the person who sent the photo demonstrated as much why would she have deleted it? It would go against sense to delete a conversation that showed your innocence.
It sounds like she knows it, and is using it against you. Maybe she is a big factor in you being in a well paid job, but regardless of motivation you still did the work yourself, you still put the effort in and made something of yourself after what you've made sound like a fairly awful childhood. The second you start thinking that she had more of a part to play in your occupational success than you did, you give her absolute power because that thought process leads to the idea that you'd flop without her now, consciously or not, and even if you do decide to try to make the whole thing work that's no position to start from.
Nope. Reward her for receiving a naked picture of someone else and making you feel like a wanker for correctly calling it out as a major deal? Absolutely not. You've made it clear a hundred times that she's emotionally manipulative, so it's no surprise that you'd feel like the answer is to be better yourself. But really think about the precedent that sets. She fucks up, you blame yourself, you make amends. That's not healthy.
It's a terrible situation and I genuinely hope you can resolve it in such a way that you don't come out of it fucked up and neither does your daughter. Good luck.
lol, imagine if she started hitting him.
Yeah, that 'be a fantastic husband' line came across like someone who'd just been dosed up on lithium after a psychotic episode. You've been more than reasonable here, Magic. Be a doormat but don't be surprised to get walked all over.
Is that how you feel about you mother?
It's a good thing that you use this forum as a confessional, Magic, because it'll help you write up a timeline of events in your marriage for when you eventually go through custody proceedings.
Start documenting as much as you can now because you're going to need to as much in your corner as possible.
John's right about the impact that staying in this toxic relationship will have on your daughter. Sooner or later, you'll it to yourself and her to break off your marriage.
It takes two to make a relationship. You've put in work. Your wife hasn't.
Don't be a tit Mert (I know that's a bit of a futile ask, but still). You have no idea how relationships and families work until you have been in one for years and had a kid together for at least a few years of it.
Your little frat boy bravado is one thing now (it's still pathetic), but when real life actually starts you'll get some perspective and maybe grow up to be a real man someday.
@Magic - Good that you are at least going to try. Though I do agree with the counselling advice above from people. There needs to be some more concrete sort of game-plan for your relationship other than "we'll both behave better". Somehow you need to reset it from scratch (and probably learn not to blame each other for stuff in the past) I think and doing that without having a neutral intermediary (fuck any family or friends' involvement here), is really difficult.
I know it's probably quite pricey, but it'll cost you less than 300-400 quid a month, and you don't have to go maybe every single week.
We spoke about counselling last night. I managed to put my concerns about the relationship across without it turning in to an argument or sounding like a cunt.
I think if it's 'official' as in we relay information to a councillor and they inform us whether it's correct or not (or whatever) it'll give it more weight.
If you take the view that the picutregate was intentional then yes, I do look like a fucking melt and deserve all I get.
I've looked in to it and a councillor costs between £60-£85 for a 50-60 minutes session. FUUUUCK me. Rather get divorced imo.
EDIT: Found one for £40 per hour. Proper Dr. Nick stuff no doubt.
EDIT 2: Dammit it's fucking Christian.
Just get Skype and set up a conference call with as many TTH members as possible.
Doesn't Smiffy do some sort of counseling? You could ask him to help. You'll save your marriage and he'll get a new job. Win/win. TTH. :cool:
Not anymore since he got sacked for doing drugs. Maybe I could council him.
Hammer could also help. ;)
He would just say move that other bloke in.
If that's what's best for the child...
Yeah couple's counselling is a lot. You can't go to the GP for that shit either. At least, I don't think you can.
Relate are decent and have a free online counselling tool. It's only for a one-off I think, but still: https://www.relate.org.uk/relationsh...hat-counsellor
If you get medical insurance through your employer or if they have a health programme, it'd be worth looking into that too as they might be able to offer something.
Proper bottle job.
Fucking hell Magic, even the tertiary posters are wading in.
We are seeing a spike in activity, true.
You'd better be tweeting this to try and drum up some new members
Get the kickboxer to sign up.
@Magic, keep us updated.
Fuck off.
Is it over, Magic?
No mate read the thread.
Poor Boydy has been hurt for simply caring :(
It's in his own interest to post regular updates too. He can refer back to it when he's going through the divorce proceedings.
I didn't know Boydy did Kickboxing.
He studied it at Oxford.
Actually I was thinking before - from that perspective is it wise? I mean, it could maybe be used against him as well no? Not that he's said anything especially incriminating but I'm sure a lawyer could twist even the fact that he's posting about it to something wicked.
Some of the things he has posted on here in the past wouldn't need much twisting.
Did she actually see this board that time when he "launched the phone" though. He never elaborated.
Don't worry Magic, I work for the court's and there's a reason only the mega-rich get off. Most Lawyers are fucking shit.
Can you imagine the picture that would paint (of any of us) if our posts were all broken down and analysed in front of a court.
Lawyers in real life are a lot more useless than TV lawyers.
I'll shut the fuck up. Sorry.
When did the British start calling them lawyers?
http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=lawyer
'Attorney' is only used by Americans.
Lawer is an umbrella term for any legal representative. All Solicitors are Lawers, not all Lawers are Solicitors.
I always found it funny how you call it Solicitor when Solicitation is the criminal term for trying to buy sex from a Prozzie (I think in both US & UK yeah?).
Learn something new every day, I though it was just one that had become ingrained from TV like series becoming season.
It's good old male hegemony. The people on one side of the deal are 'prostitutes' aka 'whores' aka 'ladies of the night', whereas the people on the other side of the deal are 'soliciting'. No mention of what they're soliciting because they're respectable gentlemen and we don't talk about that sort of thing do we, old chap.
Nope :drool:
Three times mate.
:D
I spelt it proprrly in the post about 5 minutes earlier. :cool:
And I ryed it as lawyers anyway so no worries.
Officially broke it off with my girlfriend of 4.5 years. She was pretty much perfect in every way (pretty, incredibly loyal, virgin when we met, very family oriented, in top medical school, very nurturing, good family) except for being very militantly Jewish and openly stating that she would refuse to live anywhere except New York. We were wasting our time at this stage, it didn't seem like she would compromise at any point in the future and I had no interest in compromising either. So we ended it.
Feels weird. I don't think I'll ever find anyone as great as her. Maybe I fucked up. Who knows.
Good for her.
Fair play Mert, sounds like a difficult decision but sounds like one you've thought about and potensh the right one if it's how you're describing.
A true modern day hero.
'Potensh'. :sick: Aren't you about thirty?
That does sound like a bit of a crap situation and the correct decision for all parties, but I love that even in a serious and compassionate (for Mert) post the bragging tone remains with the suggestion that she'd have sacrificed all chance of happiness just to stay with him.
Potensh is potensh more embarrassing than my own effort further up the page. Totes awks.
:sorry:
Whevs.
As will I, by lolling at you for typing like a child. It's like something a thirteen year old would have typed on Yahoo Messenger back when all caps Comic Sans was the preferred font.
Every post I make is a sign that I'm in poor spirits in your eyes, it seems. You'll make a top, top counselor.
Comic Sans :drool:
You're not getting out of this one Hammer. John is right.
People are free to talk how they want of course. They are also free to eat their own shit if they want, you know.
Don't give him ideas.
There should be a Hammer v John thread for when you two start doing this.
Do you think I should just ignore it when it happens? Probably best in honesty.
How's Operation Good Husband going?
Definitely. Nobody benefits from it.
@Hammer
Gotten soften the sentimentality with a bit of alpha banter to keep up appearances. Don't get me wrong it sucks and I can admit it was even partially a preemptive decision on my point, because she would have eventually left me for someone better / more compatible. Even if she didn't see it at the time, I wasn't good enough for her and I knew it, and she felt it enough I guess to let it happen.
Going to New Orleans instead. Close enough.
Have you been before, Mert? It's one of the best places on earth I've been. I go every year.
Mert lets get one thing straight. If I'd ever sleep at your place, it would be in a bed.
You can sleep on the floor or a couch if you want.
I'd rather have the couch than Mert's bed tbh.
Christ yeah, I said a bed, not Merts bed.
He should still sleep on the floor.
Lets organise a New Orleans meet in 2018 to show those WhatsApp BASTARDS how its done.
My girlfriend's birthday is coming up.
I know she wants a Kindle so it seems like a pretty easy thing to get her.
We're going away for the summer though, and I'd quite like a kindle as well so I don't have to lug fifty books about.
Does it cheapen the gift if I go out and buy myself the same thing a few weeks later?
Yeah so I banged another girl off Tinder (she's next to me right now sleeping). At least I know I can still do this.
If you can't get laid in 2017 you actually suck tbh.
Nice dude!!! Sluts are so easy.
WHITE male seeking sluts.
Is she sending a Snapchat to her mates 'who the fuks this guy omg!'
So many haters. In the words of the timeless muse Lil Bobby, "if they ain't hatin' / you ain't poppin"
I just got out of a 4.5 year relationship, I'm allowed to celebrate my ability to get laid (within 4 days) for once .
Within 4 days you fucking baller
Lol quinceth put the claws away.
'I'm leaving you'
'I agree'
:D
@Mert Have you sent her any drunk midnight texts telling her how much you're not missing her and that you don't think about her at all in any way whatsoever? Or vice versa.
Nah. She did try to get back together with me yesterday, it was pretty painful to experience for all parties I think.
For me it generally doesn't sink in for a few weeks as I go on a spree of meaningless female interactions, which, after the novelty wears off, soon gives way to feelings of emptiness and loneliness. That's when the drunk texts will start.
Had a hair cut lads. Proper player now (if I wasn't in a steady relationship) I would be drowning in pussy whilst you cucks stood around and wanked in the corner (magic).
Shall look forward to seeing a new photo during your next drinking sesh.
Yeah I was gona post a pic last night but I passed out. Fuck doing it sober that's just boring.
I have a girl I used to hook up with in NC coming to visit me Thur/Fri, and another girl I met at a bar and made out with two weeks ago (not the girl I banged on Thursday) going with me to a Beer Festival on Saturday. Should be a fun / casual sex filled weekend. Being single is easy mode in a big city, I can't even begin to imagine what it's going to be like in the South / Louisiana where the girls are prettier and the guys are shittier.
'Arkan? Oh, it's short for Arkansas.'
Damn was just going to say wait until they find out you're a Wurki bastard.
Surely a white ethnic would be fine.
"So, which way did you guys vote in the Erdogan power grab?"
Had a bit of a double take on tinder, earlier. A moment of "wait, is that...er, wait, what?"
https://scontent.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t34....70&oe=58FEB7F6
:D
wtf
Who cares? Luscious rack.
Still bet you swiped right.
Better have done. We need an explanation
Banged two more girls this weekend. If I was like 2 inches taller, I would be an outrageous slayer smh.
Taller. Longer. Slimmer.
Is Mert Skeelo?
Nope. I'm just average height, and I think you need to always be minimum 3-4 inches taller than the girl to really establish the right power dynamic, which precludes like maybe 20-30% of white girls from consideration. I do ruthlessly use Cialis though to ensure that I leave a very positive impression in that respect (and it works).
Also had another girl in my bed on Wednesday night (blond, Russian, 20 y/o Duke junior), but once we went back to my place (we had made out at the bar) she decided that she needed to throw up and then passed out almost immediately afterwards (was probably too drunk anyways). So really I had 3 different girls sleep in my bed over the course of 4 days.
Anyways I think I'm going to chill out on that front now for the next few weeks with exams coming up. Tthe girl from last night is cute enough and very enthusiastic, I'll probably just keep her on the side for sex 2-3x/week until I go to New Orleans. No point in investing too much time in anything else.
Plaaaayaaaa. :cool:
Genuinely thought you were going to say you f*cked her after she passed out. :uhoh: Glad you didn't, you clearly have respect for women.
Agreed on height thing. Just looks odd with a short arse fella and tall lady. Do you wear Cuban heals to help?
I give it five years or so before you're doing 25 years for rape, mert. Got a hint of Elliot Rodger in ya postings.
Yeh I can clean up with the 5-7 range girls. I know I'm way better in the South, so looking forward to Louisiana.
And no, that's just setting yourself up to be embarrassed later. I just wear normal shoes and only target girls within a certain height range / only message after evaluating height based on pictures on Tinder.
I'm incredibly careful and know all my legal rights. Always leave paper trails / evidence of consent.
Leaves a trail all over her face!! Areyawithme??!
In court?
I had to google Cialis. How do you clear the search history on an iPhone? Don't want the mrs thinking I'sm some prematurely flaccid joke of a man.
I think she'd know?
Most of us have never met you and we know.
I will go flaccid at an appropriate age tyvm
Does Mert even realize how rapey he's coming off as here? :D
...I was drunk watching the NBA playoffs, it's admittedly a bit rough reading it back through :blush:
Anyways, I have exams now and socializing opportunities are pretty dried up for the foreseeable future (will be seeing one of the girls on Friday, but that'll be about it and she's nothing more than a FWB to solidfy as a backup option going forward). Last week was alright, but that's because I had activities to look forward to and kept myself busy. I would be lying if I didn't say that I didn't feel lonely / miss having someone to talk to in between studying sessions (can't text girls I've hooked up with about random shit and come off needy, not there yet). I definitely see why people pussy out and don't end relationships that should be ended, because so much of your day is now devoid of companionship.
Anyways, needed to be done. Just need some non-exam time to cycle through dates (which won't be for awhile).
You were drunk enough to embarrass yourself at what, quarter to five in the evening? And you were either trying to talk up your sexual prowess on here while drinking with friends, or drunk enough to post the aforementioned embarrassing piffle while watching sport alone.
This is a total loss, Mert.
.....
I don't know. I know what the outward manifestation of neediness looks like and I make a conscious effort not to convey neediness in a way most other guys do (I genuinely believe I am the most effective at 1v1 maximizing attraction and escalating to a sexual encounter of anyone I have ever met). But what does that say about the state of my internal psychology, who knows.
.....
It's the kids I feel sorry for. Waking up every morning with Dad constantly going, "Half-Turkish? YOU'RE WHITE AMERICAN"
.....
The problem is that Mert sees "success" as being able to con women into bed. Without that, he's nothing.
.....
She doesn't sound like the sort of girl I'd want to be in a relationship with.
.....
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24. I dun wanna do that though. Maybe I'll go for 6 weeks in Belgium over the summer and I'll work on getting shredded / autistically gymming.
It's really the only true honest indicator of your reproductive value within the larger society, an encapsulation of the sum total of your sexual attractiveness, status, social competence, etc.
You don't owe anything to this bloke, but it you're friends with her then don't make it easy for her to cheat. It'll be unfair on the bloke, but if she's a decent person it'll haunt her for a bit.
Also Smiff girl wants the D, it's not that complicated, and she's monkey branching to you for whatever reason either the boyfriend isn't getting it done or she's just another attention seeking female.
According to your social status formula, Smiff should be having sex with used diapers.
When are you in Belgium, Mert?
.....
Cmon Smiff you know there's no such thing as men and women who are genuine friends, at best you get two people who are attracted to each other and make a strategic decision in the short / medium term to refrain from acting on their attraction. Hookup always follows eventually.
.....
Go to Dour Festival in mid-July, Mert.
I have Women that are friends, but then a) I'm not attracted to them, b) they Probably aren't attracted to me and c) I'm not a sex pest.
Mert's the kind of person that would see a kidney transplant between brother and sister and think :naughty:
What a social retard Mert is
Hey Mert do you choke your conquests during the sex?
.....
I guess that's why he didn't text me back. :(
@Mert I'll probably be at Dour, yeah. If you fancy it I can try and pass you off as a refugee and aggressively assimilate you into my group.
Crazy racist Romanian girl has started messaging me on facebook again. She's totally batshit, has fairly limited English, has told me she doesn't believe in women having power and said "my friend try set me up with MUSLIM boy, EUGH, why she do?", but it's been a while lads and she's actually quite hot. I shouldn't....should I?
Is that Ille Nastase's daughter lol
You'll be asked for your bank details for a Nigerian price next.
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Just go and get laid and stop scrutinising her shit English.
.....
Don't be a pussy. I only hook up with racists because it means I never have to physically compete with BBCs / much lower incidence of STDs among Whites.
Word. I would try my best to learn and accommodate the particular group culture and be a net contributor to overall well-being.
Mert fast-tracking himself into an AIDS clinic is the only good thing that can come of this.
Saves him doing it himself this time.
I just had a girl walk out from a date because I said I voted for Trump.
She's a hero.
Next time use metal restraints, they won't escape so easily.
Still banged her five times, though, right? o/
Obviously, since when does it matter what the girls want on Merts dates?
Met up with a lass from OkCupid I've been chatting to for a few weeks. Nah.
There was no chemistry from the off and she looked not much like her profile, but she looked nice enough so I could see past that.
She was doing a PHD in the patriarchy or something, which itself was quite cool and didn't bother me either.
We got into a debate after a few drinks though and i argued that a lot of academics are often very intelligent bit pretty damaged people who are unable to trust their own experience and need to go home and write a paper about something before they can can accept it as being real. I also generally tore into a lot of identity politics as being hypocritical posturing by twats in ivory towers who do fuck all to actually contribute anything other than write journal articles that nobody will read and post stuff on Facebook.
I'd had a few to drink by this point, but I don't think I'll be seeing her again.
Blatantly intoxicated debriefs :drool:
Going to see a Turkish girl and her friend along with me and a buddy on Tuesday. Could be a nice entry level foray into that market where I know I am pretty overvalued. Pretty much on standby mode for the next 10 days or so otherwise because of exams + pending move to New Orleans for the Summer.
:D
I wrote it on my phone and edited afterwards, if that's any defence ;)
Hammer totally missing the point of online dating.
I'm not sure if you're someone I should listening to for pointers in this respect.
;)
If someone here hadn't met Mert in person I'd be convinced it's a bot.
Academics are not often very intelligent.
You going to take that shit Lewis?
He probably agrees.
I just sound bitter when I talk about it, but lol at Hammer sitting there in his fedora giving it the large'un.
'It's like Milo says...'
My entire experience of academia (and everything since) was encapsulated nicely this week when I saw a job advertised with a charity that was founded by somebody who I not only met at university, but lolled at and called 'naive' when she told me about her idea for a charity.
Sounds about right.
Actually think I may have identified a long-term girl, going on a date on Friday, she's Southern, conservative, very pretty (but within the upper boundaries of me maximizing my appeal), good job, good banter, seemingly pretty innocent / not a party girl, ambitious, etc. Most excited I've been for meeting a girl since I've broken up with my ex.
Does she have a good enough job, though?
How tight is her cunt? Does she swallow? Can you hit her when you are struggling to contain your inner Turk?
Jesus at that. Defining a long term partner by rank in society. Can only end well.
Haha :D
You don't think women make the same calculations, except most likely even more brutal and specific?
@Mert
Some women, yeah, but they're absolutely mental and it'll show at some point. If that's your approach and you're okay with it, then it's no surprise you'd be compatible with girls that do the same. I imagine it'd end up a rather loveless relationship once you're old and have lost most of your "appeal," though.
I do think you probably move in rich kid circles, though, where such approaches are probably the norm.
Spent Tuesday doing a 2v2 date with a Duke buddy, a Turkish-American girl and her friend; the first time I have ever gone out with a Turkish girl in my life. Went probably as well as any date I've ever been on, and when she was drunk she was talking about how she could see us getting married and then immediately getting incredibly embarrassed at what she said and apologizing that she didn't mean it / she wasn't crazy. But I kinda understood what she meant, we got along that well and it was absolutely effortless / organic. After hooking up at the bar we ended up walking along the National Mall, looking at the monuments and just talking for nearly an hour, cheesily romantic stuff. She seemed incredibly sweet and innocent and it was probably the most immediately comfortable I've ever been with a girl. She came back to my place to watch a movie and slept over, but didn't put out which I low key respected a lot.
I'm seeing her again on Saturday. My only (ruthless) issue is that I feel as if I could do better, am kinda enjoying single life, and I would feel absolutely awful leading her on because of it. Based on my experience / her vibes, I know that if I kept it up she would be 100% loyal to me and would immediately be happy to dive into a long-term relationship. But this isn't the sort of situation where it could ever be casual. I'm going to New Orleans in a week so I'll keep it warm for when I get back, and I'll see how I feel then.
The attraction bonus multiplier with Turkish girls is pretty unreal / something I theoretically assumed would always be there, but never fully comprehended the extent. Might have to consciously explore that market more in the future.
You should give her Pleb's number so that he takes care of her while you're gone.
The only Turk that Pleb's interested in taking care of is Mert.
Lass at work I've decided I want to ask out. I say hello to her when I see her at the water fountain and similar but other than that I've not spoken to her much and don't know her that well. We finished at the same time and walked to the train station together a few weeks ago, and chatted for 20 minutes or so.
Best thing going forward I reckon is either (a) put in the effort to book an hour off work and finish at the same time as her at some point, and walk with her again and just slip the idea in there, or (b) just drop her an email.
Not sure if I can be arsed with (a), but is (b) likely to be frowned upon in most offices? I imagine it would be but I'm not sure.
Emails are always flying about sorting out after work drinks etc at my work. Unless you attach a dick pic I can't see the issue.
An email asking someone out on a date is fucking mental. Work email isn't the place to try that sort of stuff, unless you love a cheeky harassment claim on your record.
'A few of us were thinking of going for a drink after work if you fancy it?' Easy.
As spikey says, it would be fine if there's a few of you. I dunno. Maybe not actually. Just add em on Facebook and say hi. That's what I did with our lass.
Once the rohypnol kicks in, yeah
Come on, guys, stop picking on him or he'll leave.
Went speed dating tonight, was great fun.
Wasn't going to drink as I chat bollocks when I do, but I bought I pint of blackcurrant and they charged me £3.60 so I figured I might as well do for the second half. I had a pint and it went to my head.
I find that the trick with speed dating is finding common ground, and I noticed that one of the last lasses I sat down with had the same pawprint tattoo on her tits that Eve has. I haven't seen Eve on the telly for a long time so I figured this was an obscure little reference that not many people would recognise. So I sat down and just blurted out 'I don't mean to stare at your tits but I notice you've got the Eve tattoo!'
Once she finished laughing we had a nice chat. We touched on houses and I told her that those lads who did the 7/7 bombings did me a favour because the bloke who organised it was from my area and his antics has made the house prices really cheap.
We'll find out tomorrow if she wants to see me again :cool:
If that hasn't scared her off then she's probably a bit of a keeper.
That's my thinking. I've saved myself months by coming out with that stuff straight away.
That's always been my strategy. If they don't enjoy having the piss taken out of them relentlessly, it's doomed from the start.
Your attitudes towards women are scary. You should be praising and encouraging.
What happened to David Icke girl @Hammer?
post-"self-help" MJ on relationships is great, it sort of reminds me of when Malcolm Tucker had a breakdown and came back in a sweater and was really nice to everyone for an episode
also, lads, lads, i was at a party last night and got a young lady to come home with me and have sex with me. still got it.
Paedo
'Young lady' is definitely a paedo term, like 'cheese pizza' and all that.
Igor_balis - Where were you (and Magic for that matter) on the 3rd May 2007?
She's 24, dickheads.
Did you ID her?
I sense he and Magic dont do ID and instead prefer a different approach.
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Except you have to be under the line, obvs.
I'm pretty sure Igor would be under that line, so it's not so straightforward.
I'm amazed that backfired.
I wasn't trying to win that lass over though. By that point I knew I didn't want to see her again.
Tinder date with someone actually very pretty and normal tonight, wish me luck lads. x
Igor :cool:
How normal could she possibly be?
I have a date later tonight too so good luck Igor.
I hadnt used tinder I used okcupid though. She fell for my smile
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My wackiness is overplayed a bit on here as part of my commitment to TTH kayfabe, in reality I'm pretty normal.
PM Bam to find out.
PM Bam
It's Bam.
ask bam
Bam.
So, Bam then.
:nono: You two....
BAM! and the dirt is gone.
Viva La @Bam. Giggles is Don Vito.
PM @Bam
New page and you fucked it up. :huhu:
PM @Bam
@Bam
Yeah ask @Bam lads
I'm here !! Fuck I hope I don't fuck this up lolz
Got any tips for him @Bam?
Awful advice. Try to be as much like Pleb as possible.
If things head south piss in her glass of wine when she's in the bog then let out a 'textbook' under your breath when she has a sip.
Legend Igor.
Or do what I did when I met a lass who looked fuck all like her pictures, just start telling her you've eaten out of a bin before.
Anyway, good luck mate.
If he acts like Pleb then she will leave before its started because she knows she aint good enuff
I just PM'd Bam and the cheeky little bastard said
How did your date go?
She's really fit, going well so far
Going to end in tears.
Igors tears.
"Be like Pleb" is probably the best advice anyone could give.
I hope you prepared the dungeon in advance, Igor.
Magic's jealousy is palpable.
:(
Pretty successful date! Met at a pub, but it was really busy so we had to sit awkwardly on a bench by an occupied pool table. After some fairly solid but slightly nervous chat we walked to another place, chatted a bit more openly, made her laugh a few times, then walked to a third place, she was so flustered she didn't know how to answer "what do you do for a living" from the girl behind the bar which was quite cute.
Chatted a bit more about disastrous previous dates we'd had. made her cry laughing at some stupid joke, she walked me to the train station, gave me a kiss and told me to fuck off so I didn't miss my train, then tinder messaged me saying she'd like to go an another date. Smashed it, or at least compared to my other tinder dates. :cool:
People date off Tinder what in the fuck. Failed date fam.
Igor :cool:
Nice work.
Another victory for TTH. :cool:
Nice one Igor :cool:
@summsuccess how did your date go last night?
You should have invited her onto the train for a coffee.
Play it cool.
I'm only on page 5 and I really don't know if I should continue. Is it safe to do so?
Is this the reason he left? He got found out?
I read you went on a date last night but I've started to read this thread from the start. Are you still STD free?
Your name makes so much sense now. You went at it hammer and tongs.
But then.....I take it you're into into BDSM and the like?
I twigged when Mellberg threw out the stereotype comment and the African Prince title. Is that how your username came about? A&E?
I'm starting to notice a theme with these meltdowns.
I can't be certain about any of the three women I'm referring to in that post.
That is gold.
When I was reading the bit about Magic and his wife I thought I was reading a modified version of Form of Death by Roy Lewis and now I just read the Albanian Mafia story by Wedge.
Is this forum just loads of alias's?
Quote:
Eric Ward thinks he is happily married -- until he discovers that his wife, Anne, has been spending rather too much time with a business associate. Suspicious and angry, Ward finds comfort in the arms of a beautiful stranger. But when his new lover is found dead, he must do everything he can to avoid becoming the focus of a murder inquiry that could wreck his future. As police pressure looms, Ward makes his own inquiries. Increasingly desperate to find the girl s killer, he begins to learn more about a shady Tyneside world of drugs, dodgy property deals and illicit nightclubs. And when he learns that the trouble in Newcastle has its roots in Asian big business, he begins to fear for his own life as he seeks the final answers on the Tyne. Tense and gripping, hurtling forward to a nail-biting finish, A Form of Death is the latest in Roy Lewis s popular Eric Ward series."
Went out after Eurovision and snogged a pretty, married (and middle class) 42 year old woman. Is it wrong that I'm far more proud than ashamed?
Recently dropped the other girls in my life and have been hooking up with a blonde 20-year old D1 competetive full-scholarship cheerleader from one of the local schools. Ridiculous body, ridiculously hot, great sex, she's pretty intensely in love with me, but...she's actually fukin crazy.
Anyways it was fun while it lasted and will continue when I get back, but now currently in New Orelans. Will try my luck with the local population and see how that goes. Also @7om is a pussy for not meeting up in DC.
... You're not the aristocracy. You don't pick women like this. That's why the royal family is full of cousin fuckers. Do you want to fuck your cousins?Quote:
Recently dropped the other girls in my life and have been hooking up with a blonde 20-year old D1 competetive full-scholarship cheerleader from one of the local schools.
Do you really need that answered?
Imagine explaining to your mid-40 year old husband you cheated on him after 20 years' marriage with Igy.
Definitely a moment to be proud of. She'd have been getting it off someone else otherwise.
Paging @Cheddar.
Cheerleader girl is coming to visit me for nearly a week in New Orleans week after next...she apparently also might be cheerleading for a DC professional sports team next year. Gunna ride this one out for as long as it lasts because she is pretty next level, will just enjoy patiently and in an emotionally detached fashion until she realizes she can do way better / does porn.
Emotionally detached sounds like something you'd struggle with.
Met up with a lass last night and had a really awesome time. Not getting ahead of myself but I think there might be serious distance in it.
Only downside is that she's going travelling from July/August until Christmas, which is a pain. I can live with that though if it came to it. We'll see.
Does she know about your strange sexual stuff?
Not really. She seems pretty cool though and I doubt it'll be too much of an issue. To be honest after exploring a lot a couple of years ago, my interest in it has settled down a lot now that I know what I like and what I don't. It's not half as 'out there' nowadays.
Date 2 in progress, she's dead sound.
I've found this new Chinese and the girl on 'reception?' is gorgeous. I'm in love.
And yes I look like a fucking tramp coz normally is some fat spring roll look a like, an old granny or a bloke. Never bin to one that's got a white babe before.
i'd gone for a piss so thought it only fair to keep the tth lads updated
- Why do you keep going to the toilet?
- Shush love, I'm just updating the lads on the forum.
exactly
You should be trying to impress her, not us.
I disagree.
I was tweeting during my wedding, Yes won by 2 votes to 1 so here we are.
Giggles you bitter old cunt :D
:D had to be done.
Where does your motivation come from, Hammer? It seems like you put a lot of effort into dating with seriously little reward.
You aren't even getting laid unless I've skipped that post?
8 month anniversary today. Been taken out for tea :cool2:
'8 month anniversary'. For fuck sake, lad.
To be fair, its not like they're going all out if she's only treating him to a cup of tea.
I know it's not a real thing ;)
I thought you were married, Mike? :eek:
I presume he was married 8 months ago.
That said, it seems a lot longer since Baz posted about it.
It's me that got married.
Who was the lass who was trimming her nose hair then? Your Mrs or his?
I'm confused.
:wub:
Had a second date with this lass last night, and it was fucking great again. We had a meal and a few drinks and we also enjoyed today together (:cool:).
Again, feeling like there's serious distance with this. Not getting ahead of myself but it's looking really promising. We touched on her going travelling and what her plans are afterwards and she mentioned that she's more inclined to come back to Leeds, which she didn't say before. Gonna give it until a couple of weeks before she goes before having a proper conversation about it.
Edit: We talked about the kink exploration and all that shit also. She respected me for being brave enough to explore all that stuff and is curious about doing so herself :rasta:
Where did you go?
Me and my girlfriend argued last night. I decided not to apply for the permanent position at my school, and she doesn't seem very supportive. Yesterday she told me she felt I'd spoken to work colleagues at length but not her.
Also, we've booked 5 nights in Nice for the start of the summer holidays.
What's your reasoning for not applying?
It's making me ill. Too many hours than I can cope with presently unfortunately.
I want to give supply a go.
I've got about four tranny meets lined up, if/when I can be arsed. Got knobrot off the last lass so gotta wait til that all clears up.
Fucks sake.
Why didn't you talk to her about it, Scouse?
Women are idiots whereas his colleagues have the experience to give him good advice.
*searches through job thread*
Had something similar recently when I decided not to apply for a job outside of teaching - she got the right hump because she "had to ask me about it" and I didn't volunteer the information. Watching Breaking Bad currently (me again, her for the first time) so she's been on a little paranoia wave about me hiding stuff from her. Pretty standard.
Best tell her about Walt now so she doesn't think you were hiding it from her.
I didn't apply for a promotion a while back, just said to the Mrs that I am already knackered and I feel like learning a new role and taking on more responsibilities would see me come undone. She was fine with it. As she should be, seeing as it's my career and my decision. I wouldn't be happy if I had got a load of shit for it.
My girlfriend's concerned about the financial situation, which is fair enough as she has a house to pay for.
To clarify, our argument was a general one, rather than focusing on my job. That was just mentioned during it. Her real concern, and perhaps far more worrying, is that we're not always getting on that great.
Put a cheeky CV in at the Stadium of Light.