I have to say Magic, that's pretty ballsy what with your weak chin and all.
I have to say Magic, that's pretty ballsy what with your weak chin and all.
I thought bribes were discouraged as a means of fixing behavioural issues?Originally Posted by Disco
The wife has told me to stop over-analysing. I've said she can over-analyse the back of my hand.
It's as soft as your dick...
It's just the opposite side of the punishment coin isn't it?
No, that's positive reinforcement, where praise is lavished for good behaviour. Bribing is exactly that; a bribe.
Alright Dr Spock, call it positive reinforcement or a reward if you like but a bribe is what it is.
You read too much into your psychology books, Magic.
Which psychologist have you adopted as your God?
Gina Ford for the first 3 years then Martin Seligman. I think the problem is there really is no rule book as it were for this awkward stage.
No, a bribe is a gift to achieve a desired affect. The child will percieve this as manipulation and turn it right on it's head ('No I won't do that unless I get X').
Positive reinforcement is heaping praise on good behaviour the child has undertaken of it's own free will ('That was a great job of putting away your clothes!').
Gina Ford looks like she ate any and all children during the 'awkward stage'.
Yeah mate, so do you. Except you probably raped them first.
You're going to fuck your kid up anyway, Magic, might as well stop worrying about it.
Holy shit.
Gina Ford is the first woman that I can ever say I haven't done worse.
Job done. Reduce the reward as behaviour is learned, does she like organic lettuce?
Birdseed.
How old are the people who work at the pre-school? If they are young, I'd blame them. Young people are useless, especially when it comes to kids.
They are mature with some young assistants. The head at the nursery does strike me as a liberal hippy though, she wears sandals and those floral jammie things. I'd screw her six ways from Sunday but I bet she's got a fluffy cooter. Nice skin tone too.
Magic, you'd expect that the 'teachers' should be implementing discipline - presumably they're allowing it to pass without any consequence, otherwise your daughter would stop hitting other kids.
Fluffy cooter got me.
I work with kids aged 3 to 6, and I echo GS' sentiments that the teachers and other staff they employ should be able to command enough authority that kids don't go around slapping each other. That said, it does happen from time to time as kids don't have the necessary tools to work shit out yet (especially if she's the youngest in the group). It took me a few months to stop that kind of behaviour in the group I started in last fall, but now the older kids know that they are better off finding a way to play nice with each other or ask an adult to help them if they can't reach an agreement. The three year olds still sometimes start showing or throwing their pathetic punches about if they can't find a way out of a situation with their class mates ( I have a few kids who don't really speak Finnish or have some developmental issues, so it's more pertinent with themas they really can't tell others what's fucking them off).
I think taking away the dresses was a good move. Learning that actions have consequences is important as would be making her realise the emphatic angle of it. You could suggest to the daycare something about implementing similar rules both at home and at daycare, so that she better understands what happens when she does something 'mean' to others.
You're such a gimp Magic.
Magic - sign her up for TTH. We'll have her straightened out in no time
As an ex teacher and a parent here is what you should do Magic.
Sit her down, explain hitting is not right. Explain to her doing it is bad. Then ask her why she is hitting out? Is it because the other kids don't play with her? Is it because she wasn't getting played with enough (attention)? Then once you work out what it is, then give her one fixed alternative. i.e. talk to an adult if your angry/sad/not getting enough attention. Keep it very simple. Explain that is how it will be fixed/resolved/sorted, she will then value this approach and use it, explain this to all the adults working with her so there is a universal approach. Then showcase this approach in the house with her.
Taking away things, giving things etc only reinforces the value of possessions. What you need to do is introduce the value of behaving correctly.
Already done all that mate, the removal of something she values is a last resort. She doesn't do it around us, only at nursery. When they've got 30odd other kids you never get the full story and she just makes it up as to why she does it.
Maybe your kid's just a cunt.
Maybe you have no reasonable advice to offer and therefore should shut the fuck up.
Hit her. See how she likes it, the little shit.
Sounds like what you're doing is the best course of action, Magic. I think you'll need to give that a bit of time for her to process before deciding if you need to do anything else, which would probably have to involve having the nursery take similar action.
Omg she got a sticker.
She told me over the phone and asked if she could get one of her dresses back now so it obviously resonated with her.
Tell her she can get half of one back and then rip it in two in front of her.
and give her the half covered in Mahow's piss.
Fair enough dude. Best of luck, nice to see she got a sticker today. That's good
So her first hot friend had a spray tan today. I have to say, I was closer than I thought to posing a spy cam. My word.
Apparently her tits looked 'heavy' and she wasn't as thin as the wife thought, with a 'soft tummy'.
Jealous bitch, she probably knows I'd ride her like a shire horse in to battle.
Just think how much you'd regret not doing it when the wife eventually fucks off.
I hardly think some old non-VR/4K footage of one of her mates getting a spray tan would comfort me.
Real, ugly, STD ridden whores will do that nicely.
Magic
This Swedish girl has asked me to go sledding with her. Moving up in life.
Pretty sure my relationship is over.
You shagged that bird didnt you?
Spill all, mate. Let us make judgment whilst insincerely saying that we're here for you.
inbox me hun xx
No, but the Mrs thinks I did.
Might as well go and do it then. Fuck it.
We've had "the talk". Moving forward just feels like delaying the inevitable, but hey ho.
Does she buy that you didn't shag that one of does she just think she's giving you a chance?
She believes me. It could actually be the wake up call she needs.
Now all you need to do is go nail the other bird.
Test.
I do have a worryingly strong connection with this girl, but she's 21. Piss in the wind.
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