Originally Posted by
Adamski
I was pretty ambivalent about marriage before I thought about proposing and I still wouldn't say I am massively pro-marriage over the alternatives. Just do what you feel is right.
It definitely feels a bit more permanent when you're married and there's a lot more general calmness and happiness that it brings as a result of being more solid.
I wasn't overtly bothered with the ceremony, although it was just a civil ceremony in Italy we did. Big church weddings aren't really for me. Loved the reception and picking the food etc, also loved the food tasting the day before. There's far worse things to lose an evening too than dinner and a good bottle of wine Giggles!
I'm not sure I buy into the theory of marriage being more stable for raising kids either, I think ultimately whether you're married or not if it isn't working for one of you then that's it, regardless of situations.
As Willie said, I put far more value into buying a house and pooling our salaries into joint accounts (which we did 2-3 years previously) as being more more of an important step than marriage.
I think if you're a more traditional person who feels like their life should go down a certain path: school, uni, girlfriend, flat, house, marriage, wedding then it's obviously one of the final pieces of that jigsaw. I wasn't really that type of person, through accident rather than design I would say but yeah, on the whole I'm definitely more content now that we're married and have the little one than I was during my single years.